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I am keeping our baby in our room for at least 6 months, but I also got too excited to *not* finish the nursery. I suspect he might nap in there from time to time, and I may feed him in the nursery since the glider will be in there.

I had to look it up! It's recommended for 6 months here too (Canada), but I'm going to try to have LO in the nursery from day 1. I'll probably sleep in the twin in that room until I get comfortable though.

We have a 1bdr so we were all in the same room, but arounbd the 4 month mark it became very clear that she slept much better if we were not in the room. So now, DH and I sleep in the living room and she gets our bedroom all to herself.

That's the advice in the US too. We moved LO to her room at 7 weeks, and we all started sleeping better! What we do in the future will just depend on the baby.

My LO was in her crib in her room from day 1. We slept in there for a week, but she was so noisy my husband and I couldn't get any sleep so we more over to our room. Our room is right across the hall so I can hear everything anyway.

I think just like crib bumpers, cosleeping, solid food etc. there are standard recommendations but everyone does what is best for them at the time.

While I think technically the advice is to keep baby in your room (or sleep in their room I guess) for the first six months conventional "wisdom" dictates that people skip it. I don't think many doctors or nurses are clear about why this is advised so people don't get it. The reason is that the baby will actually regulate their breathing from hearing you breath. Overall though, I don't feel like Sids education is a big thing here. That being said, random people throw so much advice at you and half turns out to be nonsense so it becomes really hard to keep up!

The Canadian Association of Pediatrics along with Health Canada recommend that LO's sleep in their parents room in their own bed (crib, bassinet, playpen) until 6 months and that is what we did.

DS slept in his crib in the other room right across the hall from night one. If he were further away, I might have considered keeping him in our room, but he's so close I don't think it would have made much of a difference.

We are in the US. By LO's 1 or 2 weeks (too long ago, forgot) well check up, the doctor urged us to move him to his room. I also asked wouldn't there be a problem with the fear of SIDs, he said no. HE said it is important to start letting /training him to sleep on his own independently. Truth is, finally we all slept better because our movements / sounds don't wake each other up anymore.

We do have a baby monitor that detects movement - so if suddenly there is no movement (including slight movement like breathing), the alarm will go off like there's a fire. Couple of times there's a false alarm and it freaked me out so bad.

So I don't know..... I do wonder how would sleeping in the same room prevent SIDs though... so if he stops breathing, you will know automatically if you are in the same room..?

In a way, now that we are passed that stage (13 months now), I think the bumper for the crib is more of a reason that can cause SIDs rather than sleeping in the same room to be honest! I wanted a bumper so bad before LO was born because it was so prettttyy but decided against it after sources and nurses in birth classes advised against it. After seeing a baby moving /sleeping in the crib I understand that the bumper is a bad idea.

RE: The nursery.... It cracks me up ! I guess the only time when you can take a beautiful picture(s) of your nursery without any crazy clutter and mess is BEFORE the baby was born. After that, everything will be a mess, and you'd start realizing certain thing in certain location is stupid, and you'd move things around in an "un-designed" way. So I guess that's a point of finishing your nursery before the baby arrives. haha.

We moved LO into another room at around 7 weeks and into her room/crib at around 12 weeks. She was such a loud sleeper and restless sleeper we had to move her. WE have a high quality video monitor that allowed me to keep an eye on her and check to make sure everything was/isokay.

We have a 1 br apt, so LO (6 months) will stay with us until we are able to move into a 2 br.

Her crib is right next to the bed, so I can hear every move and grunt she makes. I put a pillow so she cannot see us. Not sure if it makes a difference but sometimes when she wakes up (4am) she will talk to her seahorse.

My motivation for finishing the nursery before LO arrived was because I knew I wouldn't have any time to do it afterward - and it's turned out to be so true. I even finished it early around 37 weeks because I was starting to get so tired and big that decorating and moving furniture and all that was not going to happen

On sleeping in the same room until 6 months - this is what I always thought we would do. Easy for breastfeeding, wanted the baby close to me, recommended to reduce SIDS, all that good stuff. In reality, we just woke each other up all the time and all three of us had a terrible time sleeping. By 3 weeks (I think) she slept anywhere but our bedroom if one of us was sleeping in there. We have a small house though, and I can almost always hear her before the baby monitor even picks up her crying.

I slept on the couch while my LO slept in his RNP for the first three months. Once we moved him to his nursery, he was still in his RNP with a fan going above him. He's now in his crib with a fan going above and we have a video monitor.

@sea_bass: I believe it's universally recommended to co-sleep (same room) with your baby since keeping baby close generally means they wake more often & it makes breastfeeding easier. Where it gets messed up is here its also recommended by pedis to have your baby sttn at a very early age, often start urging when baby hits 11lb & no longer "needs" to eat at night (completely untrue for breastfed babies). Because of this perspective though many of us are wired to think that when no one is "sleeping well" (whether its mom, dad, &/or baby), in the co-sleeping arrangement that its "not working" when truth be told its working exactly how it's suppose to, keeping baby from sleeping too deeply & momma nursing often since prolactin triggers are more abundant at night.

P is almost a year & we still co-sleep (and safely co-bed). She's at the point where she usually wakes once, comes to bed with us, & then dreamfeeds/nurses periodically until we all get up. She goes to sleep on her own & naps on her own in most cases (unless I want a nap too) so our arrangement hasn't shown any detriment to her "learning to self soothe" & as she grows she's begun having "better sleep practices" all on her own. Idk exactly when we'll move her to her own room but I do know it won't be before she turns one given that's less than a month away. Lol.

The recommendation is 6 months in the US too. My son is 5 months and still sleeping in our room. My son was a noisy sleeper at first but as he got older he became much quieter. I love having him close. We're thinking about moving him soon tho.

@runsyellowlites: We tried to co-bed for a while (put her down in her crib but then bring her to bed in early hours). We just never got the hang of it. She would never unlatch to sleep and wouldn't lay still so I never really fell back asleep. That is great you got it worked out. I love the idea of having LO right there and it does WONDERS for your supply!

We co-bed with a sleeper thing that sits on the mattress. My baby sleeps better when he's near me. He does stir a lot at night, especially after he wakes to nurse at 3am, but I don't work so it's not a huge deal. I think we'll just follow his cues for when we move him to his crib (also in our room).