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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I kind of understand the point the author is making but I can't say that this is something I notice happening much in professional conversations although I will listen for it now. I think a lot of what he is saying has to do more with the way the speaker delivers the message than anything else.

In terms of using "so" in written documents I will often use "as such" or "as a result" when dealing with cause an effect because "so" can sound very informal and not as definitive.

I think there's a difference between using "So" as a linking word and as a filler word. In cases of a filler word, I think it does hurt your credibility. It looks like you're not confident in what you're saying, and so, you have to say things to create pauses in which your brain can catch up and figure out what to say.

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It was a major focus in a training class I took last semester. the professor made as big a deal out of "so" as he did "um" and "uh"

@MaryM: I agree there is a difference between filler word and linking word.

I use "so" a lot in my everyday speech and I have been trying to catch myself from starting conversations that way. I think it makes you sound unsure and timid.

Personally, I think "like" is a much more damaging!

I have to admit I do use "so" a lot in the ways that the article mentions not to, and I am going to make an effort to avoid doing it. I tend to use it a lot in written comms, that's going to take some work to stop.

I'm a technical writer for consulting and b2b sales and rarely see 'so' used nor do I use it in my writing. I can definitely agree w the article.

@MaryM: I agree with all of that.

So is similar to saying "like", I use it often to carry one sentence to the next in a filler-way. I guess in place of saying "Um" lol

@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: When using a word to show cause and effect I usually use "thus" just another option

@Baby Boy Mom: It's better to pause than to say filler words. the professor I had tried to get us to stop and think instead of making noises.

He also pointed out uses of "and stuff" at the end of sentances, or "and things like that"...words that add nothing of substance.

It doesn't ususlly bother me unless it's excessive. But normally I use it or hear others use it to separate niceties from ok now it's time to get down to business and here's why we organized this lunch or meeting.

@MaryM: oh man! I totally say "and stuff" all the time! hahaha oops.

I am a total "so" abuser, and I can't quit, ack!