Last night I went to bed really irritated, and I’m not sure if it’s because I’m just being extra-sensitive with the hormones, or if it’s legitimate.
Now, I absolutely 100% KNOW that unsolicited advice is unavoidable. We all get it and deal with it. This can either be by brushing it off, or smiling and thanking for their input, or with a snarky reply. Whichever fits your personality.

But, last night my mother in law and sis in law came by and I felt like they think I’m on Teen Mom. No, worse. I felt like they think I’m a pre-teen with no knowledge of children whatsoever. One example:
We’re discussing future baby proofing of kitchen. We have this wine holder/counter/rack device where right now we have filled with glass containers, a George Foreman grill, dishes, etc. So basically, whatever we store there will be in Baby’s hands in no time. So my husband and I said we’re replacing it with something else. His mom agreed and said “yes, Baby will grab whatever is on it”. And SIL says “Nope. All you need is a strong voice.” Now, I’m picturing myself washing dishes and Baby behind me. Or, myself in living room, and Baby wandering to kitchen. It’s gonna happen. So I reply “Well, they get away from you…”

ENTER countless stories of how she used to nanny Pete and Repeat, and always had an eye on Pete at the playground even while playing with Repeat on the slides, and didn’t let him leave the gates blahhhh blahhh blahhhhhh. They don’t get away from me blahhhh.

OK I get it. But the reality IS that I won’t be able to paste my eye on Baby 10000% of the time at home. So babyproofing makes the most sense.
Am I right??? Am I wrong???

Anyway, in an effort to prove that I’m not a dimwit, I offer that whenever *I have a child in my care* (see? I’ve been with kids MIL/SIL!), I don’t let them out of my sight.

So then MIL jumps in and in the next breath "teaches" me that even if you’re right next to Baby, they can still do things in the blink of an eye. Enter story of how SIL grabbed paint thinner and swallowed some all while she was sitting next to MIL while she was painting. Etc.

OK so #1, you’re proving my point of babyproofing and my they-get-away-from-you comment which started this all.

#2, this further cements in my mind that they both think I am some Pre-Teen with zero experience. I am 11 years older than my youngest sister and played a big role in raising her. And I also have a nephew. Again, big role in raising. I used to nanny for a 2 year old. Not to discount nannying experience because she is a nanny, but SIL doesn’t have kids either. I do trust her with kids and know she knows what she’s doing. BUT why does she think she knows more than me? WHY do they think I’m clueless?? What can I do?? Spout off my resume?? Detail my experience with sister, nephew, child I nannied, college courses on infant and toddler development? I felt completely overwhelmed and almost “attacked” by the story upon story they were regaling me with. It felt like they were “teaching” me.

I complained to my husband about this and he told me that he has long since given up with them. But I’m only in my first trimester and really don’t think I can deal with this my entire pregnancy and beyond. What makes this stickier is that I love them and we have a great relationship. I just hate being "lectured" and "taught".

Sigh. Any advice?