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Congratulations! My 2nd was born when my 1st just turned 2. I've definitely had to solo parent quite a bit from early on. I babywore A LOT (for me newborn was great in a wrap) so that I could at least walk around the house and tend to my 2 year old. Breastfeeding happened on the floor (me, not the baby hah) so at least 2 year old could bring me books to read her, I could sorta play with her with one hand, etc. My 2 year old pretty much always came first unless baby was nursing or has poop diaper. For bed time if I remember correctly baby was usually just nursing when I put 2 year old to bed, since newborn's sleep schedule was more "flexible" before a more structured nap/bedtime schedule kicked in.

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Congratulations! DS1 was 2.5 when DS2 was born. Bedtime and nap time was definitely the hardest to figure out. There were times when the baby just had to cry because I was dealing with my toddler and I felt bad but he was fine. I agree with the suggestions made already. Babywearing if you're comfortable with that will help. I made sure I had places on every floor where I could put the baby down safely. I carried a newborn lounge pillow around with me a lot so I could put him down on that. My toddler probably had more screentime than I would have liked, I definitely would breastfeed with one hand and play with the other.

I tried to keep the baby separate from my toddler's bedtime routine because I didn't want him to feel like the baby was stealing his alone time, but I realized after awhile that he didn't really care, so then the baby just came along with us, laid on the bed while I read my toddler some books and it was fine. That made things a lot easier.

It's really intimidating at first, DH was only able to stay home about a week after each kid was born but you'll be able to figure out a system that works for you pretty quickly. Just give yourself some grace. I just had my 3rd 7 weeks ago and I spend a lot of time mumbling "this too shall pass" to myself.

My big tip is to get out of the house every day! Even if you just take a quick walk around the block or visit the grocery store everybody will feel much better for the fresh air and change of scenery.

Something else that has also helped me was to have three things that I achieved every day. As long as I had breakfast, made my bed and took a shower each day then all was right in my world.

And give yourself grace while you find your new normal, and don’t freak yourself out because you might be pleasantly surprised with how well you all adjust.

@cake2017: Baby literally took all naps in the carrier some days, and totally nursed to sleep all the time if I also have the 2 year old. Forget building good sleep habits, lol! No guilt! It's all a phase and they all turned out okay

I'll just say that my toddler never watched TV regularly until we had a second kid. I'd also shower with the toddler and put the baby in a bouncer in the bathroom so I could get a shower, the toddler could shower, and the baby was safe.

But honestly there were times when I had to choose between crying kids. Generally if I knew the baby was safe, I'd deal with the toddler first.

My toddler also went through the worlds worst sleep regression at this age and the only solution was to get a Door Monkey type contraption to "lock" her in her room. once she realized she couldn't escape, it was like a switch flipped and she'd just go to sleep. It was totally bizarre.

My husband also dealt with most toddler night wakings and I did the baby wakings. He'd get up with the toddler in the morning and I'd crawl out of bed when he left for work.

I also spent a LOT of time at the park with the baby in a carrier or stroller.

I was on my own for bedtimes with two about the same age span as yours. Wait and see, it might not be so bad. If it isn't working, come back and write out your bedtime routine here for us and we can troubleshoot it with you.
And the answer to how to do things at home has, for me, three parts.
1: train your children to do independent play
2: slow down, wear the baby, and let the toddler help with your tasks
3: put the baby in a safe seat, give the toddler a screen, and multitask as fast as possible
I needed a combination of all three. Remember that everything gets easier about six weeks in. So give yourself a month or two of grace. Relax any household rules about screens and fruit snacks and lollipops. You can reinstate the rules later and it will only take a couple hard days to get back to it. For now, do what works.