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Hehe. I will say yes and no... Honestly, before having kids I was super selfish and after having kids I can't even THINK about thinking about myself! There's just no time or energy. We've had dogs since before the first baby, and Wagon Sr. does all the hard work for the dogs. I'm the same way as you-- if he's not around, I'm like, oh you can hold your pee for a while. Or, oh you won't die if you don't get your food right now. I enjoy my dogs and love them so much, but I don't pet them or take care of them nearly as much as Wagon Sr.

It's the same before and after the baby, btw

As for baby... there are definitely so many moments when the baby is crying and I really do not want to get up and get it. There are moments when the baby cries and I find myself actually angry at the baby for crying! At least dogs don't cry... and you can leave a dog alone, but you can't leave the baby alone. It's tough, but nothing teaches you how to be selfless more than being a parent, I think.

With babies I do leave a lot of hard work to my husband as well... I use the excuse of "I'm the one nursing and pumping!" which DOES take a lot of energy. So I leave him to change diapers and do a lot of the rocking to sleep. But there are certain things that I'm on autopilot to do... bathing, laundry, washing bottles, preparing the food, restocking diapers, etc. You just find your role and settle into it.

You will be fine... And having a dog is great prep for having a baby!!

There will be some days you will suck as a mom and other days where you'll just be so awesome it will kill you. It's just one of those things that you've just go to throw yourself into and ride out the waves for the good times.

Unfortunately..... kids don't really give you a choice but to be selfless. Your baby will not just let you lay in bed for 30 minutes in the morning. It will cry and cry and cry and cry until you come and feed him and change his diaper. And then he won't want you to put him down so you won't get to get any more sleep. Life will no longer be your own, it will belong to your baby. So be selfish while you still can

I will not lie. I adore my English bulldog like she's my child (I refer to her as my first-born!) and she was great preparation. However, nothing prepares you for how selfless you have to be once you have a (human) baby. Like Mrs. Wagon there are times when I don't want to go and get the baby out of bed to comfort her when she's crying. I think it's just human nature, though there are plenty of moms who would probably disagree! That said, I do it without question because she's my baby my love for her is so strong.

But yeah, there may be times when a tiny bit of resentment creeps in. I definitely experienced that in the beginning but then as time went on I became more used to always putting LO first and it has become second nature.

@DANIELLEMYBELLE - i think just the fact that you asked this question shows that you will be, in fact, a great mom

I worry about this too. Unlike others, though, I'm not devoted to my dog. I will feel guilt - if I ask my husband to feed him he'll take his sweet time until I feel bad and do it myself. Same with letting him out - my husband thinks he can just wait forever.

However, I get so annoyed. My dog makes himself throw up in the morning if I don't get out of bed when he wants me to, and this makes me SO ANGRY. Everyone tells me to sleep before baby comes, but how am I supposed to do that when my dog acts like a brat?? (Trust me - it's not sick belly. we've been through it with the vet, lol).

I don't really care too much about 'me' time, but I do get so annoyed when the dog vomits and I have to clean it, when I have to vacuum twice a day because all he does is shed, when the bed is FULL of dog fur to the point that I have to vac our bed and lintroll it before I can wash sheets..and he's not even allowed in our bed... and then wash his bum because when he poops it sticks in the long fur....I worry so much that I'm going to resent LO for things, too.