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@Pink Champagne: +1 - I pretty much agree with all you said.

OP, I don't think anyone is gunning for your removal or desires you to leave. Quite the contrary. It was an honest mistake - a question I believe was from a place of curiosity rather than malicious intentions. All you did was post it on the "wrong" board. Stay. There's no reason not to. I'm pretty sure all has been forgiven.

While I think it's important for the community to be informed, aware, and kind, I think it's a bit bogus to assign heightened sensitivity to some subjects of conversation, and not others. We could extend the same "foot in mouth" sentiment to the victory threads on the breastfeeding board, when there are numerous members who are physically unable to breastfeed, and might feel disappointed or alone in those struggles. All I'm saying is that while sensitivity *does* certainly go a long way, assuming people might have your best interest at heart does too.

@pui: I agree. I think there were other factors involved in the OP's last thread, not just being in the wrong board.

OP- I don't think you should leave. It was an mistake. We all make mistakes. As someone who has struggled with IF, I think it makes me feel better that you are more aware of how insensitive the thread you created was. That's the only thing I can do about it. Creating IF awareness is high in my book and so if the Resolve link helps you, that's great and wonderful.

We have been through the trenches with IF and it sucks. Really it does. I would never ever wish IF on anyone. Some days I don't want to talk about babies and sometimes I do. You can see from my post count that I do and enjoy the HB community.

Live and learn, I guess. But no need to leave.

I really tried to not comment on this thread because I do think it's melodramatic but @deerylou: I think comparing the IF boards to the breastfeeding boards is a bit imbalanced as those struggling to breastfeed have a baby and those struggling with IF dream of having a baby. Just a thought...

@spinningry: people struggling with IF are all different. If I was still going through my round of IVF and saw your thread I probably would've chalked it up to immaturity and ignorance and ignored it. But that's me. You learned a lesson on empathy today so let's move on.

You made a mistake and posted to the wrong board (in my opinion that was your only mistake. Fertility guilt is something plenty of people struggle with when their loved ones battle IF and you are more than welcome to start a discussion about that topic.). It's nothing to feel you need to leave the community over.

@Pink Champagne: I agree with @Pui. While her initial post may not have been insensitive, saying she wishes to share her fertility with someone who isn't lacks awareness. I think those who responded were quite fair in their response to her.

@spinningry: No one is trying to make you feel unwelcome. It was an honest mistake, and people will forget it after a few days. I think you had already apologized in your previous post, and people understand where it was coming from. Please stay, as i don't think you should leave over something like this.

Yikes. I've been watching this thread over the last two days ... Either let it go (many have had their say, and it's settled), or leave ... Or, leave, and sign-up with a new name/avatar. Problem solved.

@spinningry: Leaving is not what people responded to. Flounce posting (specifically starting a thread to announce your departure) is what some people find dramatic.

I'm sorry that the other thread got heated. If you don't feel comfortable here, that's understandable. I really think this will all blow over and be long forgotten about soon. My hope is that you will stick around to see how great this community can be.