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I don't think they "owe" me, but for me it really isn't about that. To be honest, I would love to live together forever through the generations like other cultures. I guess I would like a culture in my family where people are respected and loved and helped out at all ages, so sort of, but I don't mean just financial, or financial at all necessarily.

Mainly I want them to be happy, healthy, have values, and I hope we have a healthy relationship.

I do think kids owe their parents this kind of support, but at the same time I think the place we live doesn't have much of a future. If rather my kids grew up knowing they're free to leave for somewhere better, than that they got stuck here because they feel they need to take care of us.

My only expectation above and beyond a lifetime relationship is that they will manage our healthcare/finances when we are no longer able. As I will do for my parents. And as my Aunt (Dads sister) I adore does for my 94 year old grandma.

I expect my kiddos to be financially self sufficient by the time they are 25, unless there are some kind of extenuating circumstances. Right now, we have no plans to help them with things like downpayments on their houses, and hopefully we will raise them to have the values to be able to work hard and save the money themselves.

As far as their responsibilities to us--I think that will depends on their and our overall financial picture. We are on track to totally take care of ourselves financially, but hopefully when it is time, our kids will take over managing our health and finances for us when we can't do it ourselves.

Nothing!

But like @youboots: I hope they/she take care of our health when we can't do it ourselves.

I expect them to be financially independent unless there are extenuating circumstances, but beyond that, all I wish for is to be involved in their lives and for them to manage my affairs when I am no longer able to do so.

Nothing!! I chose to bring my daughter into this world, not her. My mom holds everything she's ever done for her kids financially and otherwise over our heads and despite Us being grateful she expects that we owe it to her to do whatever she wants us to now as adults. It's manipulative and put a huge strain on her relationship with her kids. I didn't ask or demand for most of the things she gave us, so while I am grateful, I don't feel I should have to owe her anything in return other than my gratitude.

@Dandelion: Same. That's reward enough for me.

@Dandelion: yep!

@looch: I agree.

I do expect them to reciprocate love, and to grow up to be kind, decent human beings that add value to society. I think it's unrealistic to expect nothing because I'm sure we all expect something from the people in our lives, whether it's a friend, our husband, or our parents.

When you give your all to someone, it doesn't seem unrealistic to expect some reciprocation.

@MaryM: Totally agree.

Eta: I answered based on the thread title, but as for your more detailed question... no, I don't expect them to support me financially and we are working hard to not put that burden on them by making sure we are saving enough for retirement... but, if we do fall on hard times I would hope that they wouldn't leave us out to dry... just like we would never leave them out to dry no matter how old they are. Ideally, we would be self-sufficient in our old age, and they would be self-sufficient as they come of age.