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Honestly, I don't even remember what the fight was about! The biggest fight that I can remember was when we were still new in our relationship (under 1 year) and we almost broke up! I remember that we were doing homework in his dorm room, and I think we were arguing about something homework-related, although maybe not. And then I remember that he was mad because I was "argumentative" and he hated to argue (I think I thought we were debating...). Then all I remember was some yelling and crying before the apologizing set in.

We argued about whether being Confirmed and being Saved are the same thing.

I can only remember one fight we had, and I can't remember what it was even about. We were in Germany at Oktoberfest, and we were both really drunk, so who knows!

We had a rough 2007. We fought over everything. Every.single.thing. So I can't really recall any one topic that was particularly explosive.

This morning we had a pretty heated blow out over the concept of a pre-moistened wipe. I'm just sayin'- they're moist wipes, why can't he just close the darn lid so they remain moist?

We fight all the time (mostly me nagging Rob Sr.) but our major fights have all been about family, mostly him prioritizing his mom over me. It was pretty much years 3 and 4 of our marriage. He is extremely protective over his mom and this has caused some major issues. This is something that I don't believe will ever be fully solved (he prioritized her for 24 years before marrying me, after all) but rather worked on every day for the rest of our lives. I made the mistake of thinking that once we had a baby, he'd automatically prioritize us over his mom, but old habits die hard. I know his priorities are straight now, but sometimes he reverts back and his reflex is to protect his mom in all circumstances. I also made the mistake of thinking it has to be all or nothing-- every time he slipped, I'd accuse him of loving her more than me. Like most other things in marriage, this is something that can only be improved slowly over time with a lot of work. I used to see it as a betrayal every time it happened, but now I just see it as an old bad habit and one of his many idiosyncrasies. It used to be devastating but now it's just annoying.

@Clementine: yaaaay, I'm not alone the merging of families has got to be the most difficult thing in marriage. It's like the day of the wedding everyone automatically loves each other as family, but they're practically strangers. Then you have to learn about each other and figure out how to manage your relationship with them over the years. I think this is why most people can't stand their in-laws. The expectations to love each other and get along perfectly start WAY too high and too early.

I feel like I could write a book

Even with my parents, I'm very independent from them and they're pretty easy to get along with, and I have a great relationship with them, but we still run into snags, especially around holiday time. I don't care who you are or how nice you are... there will always be issues!!!

@tina: Shiz. DH and I would totally fight if he prioritized his family over me and our LO. DH was raised by white folk and isn't a mama's boy. My ex.. always put his family before me. He told me that his family would ALWAYS come first. Even if we were to get married and have kids. Kicked his a$$ to the curb.

Glad your DH finally has his priorities straight!

Our biggest fight was about halloween decorations (I know, lllaaammmeee!). We had just moved in together, and I had decorations from when I lived by myself. I made the mistake of hanging some of them in his home office. He came home from work and FREAKED OUT. He didn't want me moving his stuff and invading his space without asking him first. So I asked him if I could hang them, and he said no. Which caused me to FREAK OUT.
SOOO dumb! In the end, I just moved them downstairs to our "common living space" and it was a non-issue. I think it was more of an adjustment to sharing a home because we had both owned our own homes and lived independently for so long. We've got it figured out now!

@chopsuey119: I know. I always (half) joke about how if he dares to bring a girl home to me, I'll just call her a whore. So bad. I know from the way my parents were that I won't be so bad, but I just can't imagine him loving another girl more than me. I already want to break out the "do you understand how much I sacrificed to have you?? do you understand how hard I worked???" haha.

The closest thing to a fight we've had was a drunken argument about which male celebs were "hot" or "not".

In reality though, no fights.

We argue over little things... the usual hubby/wife things. I think our biggest fight was during our dating period. And honestly, I can't even remember what we fought over! HOW SILLY.

Our was about DH drinking, I thought he was getting a little too out of control with the amount/frequency and was being influenced by coworkers to ignore my concerns. We fought and came close to posponing our engagement at the time until he figured it out that it true. Now a new job and new outlook on the importance of our relationship has put everything on the right track!