Sorry, i need to vent and who could better understand a hormonal preggo than my Beemamas.

Long story short, DHs siblings are always looking for handouts. They are in their late 30s, unmarried, still living at home and financially dependent on their parents even though they have jobs of their own. This has been a thorn in our side since they constantly come to us for money, things, etc. (DH is very independent from his family). What gets me is that my inlaws think they are providing for their children but in turn, they are keeping them from becoming independent. Sure, its the kids fault too since they have the power to say NO but thats just too easy for them. And yet they continue to bite the hands that feeds them, complaining how their parents coddle them but takes their money with ease. This has been such a struggle since this culture is deeply imbedded within the family that whenever DH and I say NO, we are met with anger, whining, etc., and it causes a huge family arguement as to why we arent being a teamplayer in the family. I am all about helping family in times of trouble but this is not times of trouble.

I know never to say never, since if I was faced with that similar situation, I may be feeling burdened to help my child but this is too much! Now that we are facing feeding another mouth in this house, this needs to stop. DH agrees but there is so much we can do.

This month especially, my inlaws have been asking me for tons of things, some of which i gave but it is getting annoying getting phone calls/ emails without a "hey! how are you?" but instead, can i have that?

Am I being hormonal or do I have a right to be irked?