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I'm having a blegh day and just want to vent before I go home because I know DH will be excited (thank god he won't be home until late)
His BFF's wife had their baby today.
This is the TENTH close friend/family member since January who's had a baby.
I LOVE the baby's dad as if he were a brother (seriously, he was the most excited person when we found out we were pregnant because our kids would get to grow up together like he and DH did)
But I'm having the absolute hardest time being excited for him and not selfishly feeling crushed and wondering if it's ever going to happen for us.
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@MaryM: Sorry hon
It's really hard being excited for others when the struggle is so hard.
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@MaryM: So sorry! sounds like today will be tough and keeping a smiling face with your DH might be hard on you. Hopefully venting here will help!
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@marzipan: Yes I will see you on the February board! I am waiting until Monday to see what my 2nd beta looks like first, though!
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@MaryM: That's rough, I'm sorry. I hope your turn is coming soon.
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I might have had a big ole glass of whiskey tonight to help get over it.
I'm pretty sure AF is showing up tomorrow or Saturday, and now I'm really ready to just move on.
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I'm sorry. : ( Did you already POAS?
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@simplyfelicity: I have, and I'm 12 dpo
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@MaryM: Oh, I see.
I got a call last week confirming my ultrasound and I had to remind them that I miscarried. Those reminders are awful and I am so sorry. I hope you have a relaxing night with your DH.
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@simplyfelicity: ugh. And I thought my office was disorganized! I'd have been so mad over that!
DH is working late again, but I had a google hangout with some good friends. They're younger and still single, but somehow never say the wrong things. They're a huge blessing that I'm so thankful for.
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@MaryM: Do you work in at an OB's office?!
I love how some people can just say the right thing. I team teach with another teacher who has experienced three loses and she was really great as a support. Sometimes you can find support in places you least expect.
ETA: I realized the quote from my coworker might make others uncomfortable as we all deal with grief in different ways, so I changed it. -
@marym I'm sorry you're having a crappy day
hopefully you'll feel better about your situation soon. Until then still sending you BFP vibes until AF shows!
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@MaryM: That's so hard! There were a bunch of Facebook announcements for me recently, and it stings.
@simplyfelicity: Ugh, I would have died with that phone call.
I just received a new job offer which should make getting KU interesting! haha, but Murphy's Law, right? Maybe this will be month!
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@KelLeeLeee: Congratulations! That always seems to happen, fingers crossed!
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@simplyfelicity: I don't work at an OB office, but I got to know the staff at the one I work at rather quickly due to the MC. The front office is in a transition (they were moving everything from paper to digital) and it was a MESS when I started going more often. It can be impossible to get people on the phone, and I've lost it a couple times.
All my friend really said to me was "You're in my prayers" and "Your time will come." I realized that I think I appreciated it so much because she didn't minimize the MC by saying something like "It probably just wasn't your time." I think her focusing on the future was so much more helpful.
@KelLeeLeee: I've started taking some of the new parents out of my news feed. I just can't deal with the constant pictures anymore. It was fine when it was one or two babies...but it's getting to be WAY too much. It wouldn't be so bad if they only popped up when they're posted...but since they move up whenever someone comments...blech.
to you! I hope Murphy's law works!Oh, and an update...I tested with a FRER this AM and it couldn't have been more negative. And I have cramps. So I'm pretty darn sure I'm out.
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Thank goodness for HB, and sorry in advance for this bit of venting...
I tested this morning at somewhere around 10 dpo fully expecting (naive, probably) it to be positive. I have been feeling progressively worse, with the past 3 days ending with pretty excessive bloating. It sucks and I just want the reason for it to be because a baby's in there. It just would blow if I'm feeling like this for no good reason! The test was negative so here I go another day wondering and waiting. It was a FRER and I looked at it a couple times during the 3 minute wait to check on it and a couple times I thought I saw something. But then I didn't, and I even pulled it out of the trash twice during the next 2 hours and it was stark white
I think it was all in my head. I have been drinking a ton of water lately, and when I tested this morning, it was on a 4 hour hold because I had gotten up in the middle of the night to pee. So tonight I'm going to try to stop all fluids by around 8 and see if I can make it through the whole night without peeing.
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@Circusbee: 10 dpo is still super early. Fingers crossed for you!
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@MaryM: I see. I know you don't work at a OB's office but can you even imagine while TTC? That would be freaking torture.
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Thanks @simplyfelicity I think I was hoping I had ovulated a bit earlier and was really more like 12 dpo
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@simplyfelicity: It's torture just to go anymore!
the last freakout I had was when I went for one of my last blood draws during the MC. Usually the lab paper is ready and waiting and I can just pick it up and get in and out. For some reason it wasn't ready and it took a half hour for the nurses to get to it.
So I got to sit there and watch as smug pregnant women came out of US and ooed and aahed over their pictures with their husbands.
I was ready to punch someone.
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@MaryM:
Aunt Flo is the worst.I'm slowing spotting and getting cramps. So...I am probably out.
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@MaryM: oh honey I am so sorry! I just wanted to let you know that if its easier you are always welcome at the 6+ board too. I had a hard time seeing people come and go all around me. Hugs.
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@MrsMccarthy: The board really hasn't bothered me as much as the actual people around me.
And a BFP isn't as hard to deal with as the actual babies being born. I'm not really sure how I'm going to handle it when it comes time to actually see the babies in person...
I will go ahead and apologize if I fall off the board and don't continue to cheerlead through the rest of the month though. I think PingOAS early in the month might be making this thread easier for me to handle.
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Sorry @marym
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@Circusbee: Well, hopefully you ovulated later. Fingers still really crossed for you!
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@MaryM: Geez, that must have been awful...ugh. Can't people have any foresight that a woman going through an mc wouldn't want to be there? I feel like I see pregnant women everywhere and when I hear someone talking about a due date close to mine, I feel like someone has kicked me in the stomach.
You do whatever you need. It's hard to hang around a board when you are just ready to move on to the next. I hope you enjoy your fun weekend planned with your DH. -
10 dpo here and cheerful for small victories. For the last two cycles I have started spotting early (9dpo last cycle) and so far so good this time - no spotting yet! Desperate for next week to come so that I can test!! Good luck to those planning on testing over the weekend!!
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@SimplyFelicity: I do work in an OB/GYN clinic, and it is pretty miserable. Doesn't help that three of my coworkers are also knocked up along with our patients.
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@Annette: Yay! Good news! fingers crossed for you
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@MaryM: I'm so sorry for everything you've had to go through. I took a break from hellobee for a little bit and it definitely helped me focus less on the difficult time I was having with TTC. You're in my thoughts and prayers!
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@lilyofthewest: Oh, boy, that would be so tough. That just plain sucks.
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Still BFN over here at maybe 11 DPO after a successful 6-7 hour overnight hold. Temps are still high. On to tomorrow.
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@Circusbee: what are you testing with? Frer?
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@intotheocean Yes, FRER.
Thinking I should skip tomorrow and test Monday if no AF and temps are still high. I only have 1 FRER left...
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I had a positive OPK a few days ago, then started spotting and had negative OPK's until today. It's a strong positive, and I'm still spotting. I'm so confused gah.
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And I have cramping that's been going on for a few days as well.
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@intotheocean any history of multiples in your family? You could have O'd twice - happened to a friend of mine while she was being monitored by an infertility doctor!
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@circusbee still playing the waiting game here at 11 Dpo as well. I'm going to test tomorrow am, hopefully we both get positives tomorrow (or SOON cause I don't wanna wait any longer!!)
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@Annette: yes, I am a fraternal twin and my son originally had a brother or sister that didn't progress. Omg haha
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@Annette: I hope you both get positives!
It's really hard being excited for others when the struggle is so hard.
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