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Ok...I'm assuming your DH feeds LO before he goes to bed as a dream feed? Does your LO get her long stretch of sleep after her dream feed? What does a typical night look like? Does your DH prefer going to bed at a later time or would he rather go to bed sooner?

ETA: for the first 4 months what we did was I would go get my LO and nurse him in bed anytime he woke and then DH would put him back to bed...so we were both up but it was nice to not have to get out of bed a second time. We had 1-2 feeds at that time. Once we were down to 1 consistently then i handled all nightfeeds,

Tough call. Part of me thinks alternating nights would be a good plan because you'd have a full night's rest but only if you can sleep through LOs wake ups. Then again, if its been a particularly bad night I can imagine that'd be pretty rough for the on-duty parent that next day at work. I can see how the shifts would work well too with inconsistent or frequent wakings so you can at least get some shut-eye, but at that point think your husband would need to go to bed when you do. I'm struggling with it myself but sometimes you have to just accept that an early bedtime is the only way to get a good night's sleep.

Sorry no help because I nurse so I wake up for all feedings. But that's a personal choice because it's easier for me to just nurse her rather than pump in the middle of the night.

I can see why he thinks it's not fair because he's taking care of her while you're sleeping between you sleeping and him sleeping then again in the am. So in his mind he might be seeing it as he does it twice whereas you do it once in the middle of the night. If you really wanted to get particular..

We alternate nights. However, have been blesssed by a baby who dropped her night feedings Awhile ago now! It's the occasional 445 wake up that kills us!

@winniebee: we are blessed with a good sleeper! She was on the womb too. Though, we also set a routine at like 4 months old and rarely deviate.

@Goldilocks1107: Just so you feel better.... my LO is 7.5 months now and he recently started sleeping through the night (7p-6a). However, before that, between 2 - 7 months, it was always my shift throughout the night (he gets up 1-2 times to eat and I nurse him). And it is always me responding to him when he gets up in the morning, let that be 5:30, 6:00, 6:30, 7:00... etc. And I have to keep him entertained until 9am when Nanny gets here and I'll start working. I am pretty much OK with it though But I have to say since I nurse him, it maybe easier for me because I usually gets back to sleep very quickly myself because I didn't have to be completely awake fixing bottles and all.

I am not really offering any suggestions (!) but just so you know that you are not alone, and there are people that are in worse situations than you are! Don't think of it as "it is not fair you sleep while I get up twice"...etc. Think of it as love to your child and this is what you are willing to do for her. It's going to be a few more months (or shorter, depending on your luck!) before she sleeps through the night.... so hang in there!

But seriously, maybe try dividing the night into 7p-1am, and 1am-6am? On Sunday and Monday maybe your DH can take 7p-1am and you take 1am-6am? Good luck!

@Goldilocks1107: Well what about on your "on" night you stay up the extra time to do the later feeding - whoever does the later feeding gets a freebie the rest of the night? I know you have to get up super early, but if you could have guaranteed sleep from 10-5:15 that would be kind of amazing, no?

@Goldilocks1107: Yeah, I get frustrated with DH when he is tired because he stayed up late, not really because of the baby (although I am not working, so I get all the night wake ups).
I think you need to talk to him about his *choices* in sleeping.
Right now I do this:
Bedtime for baby: 7 30. Bedtime for mommy: 8:30. 10pm DH comes home from work and I get up and hang out. I get the baby up and feed him before I go to bed again (usually 11 but DH usually stays up). Then I can get my "long" stretch out of LO starting at 11pm instead of at 7 30pm.
Can you make DH feed her right when he goes to bed, instead of always 9pm? Then he will get some sleep.... at least whatever her longest stretch is.
Or.... skip the dream feed, like @irene said and see if she will sleep longer?