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It's tough because I think what they did was bad for their daughter (she didn't have any consequences and wasn't forced to take responsibility for her actions) but it was probably in the best interest of their grandchild...

@MamaMoose: yeah, very good point.

I think it depends. I knew a girl who got pregnant in highschool and didn't stay with the father, she didn't feel ready to be a mom, so her parents adopted her daughter. The daughter is like 10 now and says she has two moms lol. If I had been really young, I may have done the same thing and I know my parents would have adopted my kid. But I know they would have been sorely disappointed for getting pregnant in the first place.

As for my LO? Purely depends on circumstances, since I have a boy I would grill into him the importance of responsibility now for the girl and baby. I would probably still help out and pay for his college so he could get a job to support them.

I definitely think there's some middle ground to these situations. I would not be fully raising our grandchild, but I do think that we'd try to help out. I could see us babysitting while our child was working or taking classes at a community college.

I have a cousin who had her baby at 17 last year and she's no longer involved with the father. She works and takes online college classes. My cousin's grandmother and sister often take care of the baby if she's working/doing school work. In this situation, she's taking responsibility for herself and her baby, but she also knows that she can turn to her family if she needs a little help.

I guess if my daughter decided she wanted to give her child up for adoption I would want to try and keep that child in family if my daughter was comfortable with it, so we could insure she was raised in a good home. If my daughter decided she wanted to raise the baby then I would make her take the majority of the responsibility, with us helping out so she could make a decent life for herself (finish school/college/ect.) However I would not on to always babysit the baby on the weekends so she could go out and party and what not, no way. She would be responsible for the child when she is not in school/at work. She would be pulling night duty and what not.

If my daughter got pregnant and chose to parent, we'd offer her help within reason, but definitely would not be willing to be the parents. She would have to be taking steps to work toward being 100% self-sufficient in order for us to continue to provide support. Of course, I'm not sure what we could do if she said she wanted to do that but then was taking advantage of us - I wouldn't want to watch my grandchild suffer either. So I can see both sides of it.

I knew a girl in college who had a toddler who lived with her parents. She lived in the dorms, did the regular college kid thing, partying and everything. I'll admit that I really judged her for that.

I don't know what I would do in this situation, though. I hate to say it, but honestly my first thought would probably be to explore the option of abortion with her. If she wanted to carry the pregnancy to term, I would want to help, but I wouldn't want her to shirk her responsibility.