So my current marriage is my second. My first husband and I were only married a year or so (he cheated) and never had any children.

I know that if I found out as a teenager or older that my mom was married before I would be kind of bothered (not really sure why I just would be). So I've always thought that I would theoretically never hide my first marriage from my kids and then it would just... come up.

In reality though, I'm not sure how it would ever come up. My husband really does not like my ex and we never talk about it. Plenty of relatives on both sides know though, so it isn't like it would never come out and why bother telling my kids.

I have thought about maybe telling my kids if they ever ask how I met their father. To make a long story short, my current husband is the extended friend of my ex. So when we got together in large groups of people years ago my now husband would be there. That is how we met. He started to fall for me then but I never knew it (as I was taken). He made an effort to see what I was up to (from facebook) over the years and about 3 years after the whole thing when we were both single he reached out and we got back in touch, fell in love, got married, etc.

What would you do or what have you done in a similar situation?