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We can't tell LO anything ahead of time because he doesnt' get time and gets all upset that it isn't sooner.

Sometimes we tell him. Mostly to have the talk of how to because since sometimes excitement leads to poor listening.

We've told DD1 a few weeks ago that we're going to visit her cousins in Ny for thanksgiving. Then her other cousins will be visiting for Christmas. She is SUPER excited!!

If it's something like a play date I don't usually tell him because I know with kids how quickly plans can change and I don't want to get him excited for nothing.

If it's something pretty guaranteed, like grandparents coming, I'll usually tell him so I can bribe him to behave.

We tell her ahead of time, and day of. We talk about things lots in advance to help assist in her learning about time.

I tell him ahead of time now. I didn't always used to. But he's learning the days of the week, how many days it takes to get to X, the concept of time, etc. I love seeing him super excited about things! Even if it means he asks about it every day for a couple weeks haha

We tell LO ahead of time if they are coming for sure (plane tickets, extended trips, etc). We don't talk about playdates since colds can change plans so quickly even when people have the best intentions.

I should clarify that we tell DS about some things like people coming to visit that he will be curious or happy about but not overly excited about. Like grandparents, adult friends etc. We get him prepared and try to teach him about time. Obviously we've been telling him that the baby is coming out after Christmas and try to teach him time in ways that don't cause melt downs. But we learned that when we tell him that kids are coming over in a few days or even a few hours, he obsesses until then and throws tantrums when he cant demand that they come right now. It isn't worth it. Yesterday, his teacher told them that today they would have icecream and he spent all afternoon and evening yesterday crying about wanting icecream. I have a very stubborn child.