Hellobee Boards

Definitely not weird to feel that way. Everyone mourns and deals with loss in their own way and time. {HUGS} Sorry you are feeling down.

Give yourself a break here, its only been two months. You wouldn't expect to bounce back from any other loss that quickly. Its great that your DH has come to terms with it but everyone grieves differently and its normal that you are still mourning.

I had my m/c in September and my BFF had her first baby in November, a week early. I went cold when I got the call to say he was here - I wasn't ready to face it. I went to the hospital and held him. I felt ok while I was there with them but as i was travelling home I started feeling sadder and sadder. When I got into the house, i burst into tears on DH. He couldn't understand it, he kept saying "but i thought you'd be happy he is here safe??" and I was..... but I was also so, so sad. That space in my arms where my baby should have been felt empty without him/her. I felt silly - and selfish - for thinking about that when i should have been focussing on my friend's happiness.

The pain did heal for me eventually and it will for you too. Don't feel you have to rush yourself. Hugs.

Aw, that's rough..I'm sorry!

I was told I was that my baby stopped growing so they scheduled my d&c for almost a week later and I had to go to a baby shower in that week. I couldn't get out of it and it was *so* hard watching her open all these sweet baby things, at least I didn't have to hold Any babies but still.

I went to see my friend after she had her baby a few months after my miscarriage and that was so hard, she understood and didn't make he holds her long

So sorry

I didn't hold a baby until I had mine after my miscarriage. I did help host a baby shower for a friend that was due a month before I was supposed to be. I talked to dh before the shower and told him not to leave my side because it was going to be very hard for me and I needed his support. It was extremely helpful to always have him there. Now my lo is 6 months younger then the baby from the shower and they play together

I would talk to your dh about it. I'm sure it's hard for him to understand. He wasn't physically carrying the baby, his hormones and body weren't changing, etc. Just tell him even if he doesn't understand why you're upset, you are and he needs to respect that.

I haven't held a baby yet, but I can imagine how tough that must have been. Hugs to you.

@Honeygold89: I have no experience but want to echo the other ladies to give yourself a break. Big bigs!

I didn't have a problem holding babies after our m/c... my problem was hearing pregnancy news! 2 of my SILs announced pregnancy (one announcement was 1 week after our m/c) and all I did was cry... it was like a punch to the face. It broke my heart but definitely got easier... Prayer definitely helped me heal!