OMG I can't believe I am admitting this. But I am totally into the concept.
I'd love to have another woman in the house who loves my LO, loves taking care of her, loves mothering her, etc. And it would be nice to have a sister-like person to hang out with and whatnot.
And it would be awesome to have another person to help be a good wife to DH! Haha I'm probably crazy.
Too bad DH says "One wife is ENOUGH"
coconut / 8854 posts
I guess I see where the idea seems appealing, but I would NEVER be able to share DH with another woman! Ever!!!
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
Not me. I don't want to share my time with DH. I already feel like I don't get to see enough of him!
honeydew / 7586 posts
I don't think it is a bad idea in theory (I'm not even Christian). I think I'd get super jealous though!
Although, if she took care of all the BJ's, I may be on board! Haha. Inappropriate?
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
bahahah omg I totally laughed! I told DH I'd be okay with another husband - two people to wait on me! lol!!
actually I don't think it sounds so bad either... but I def wouldn't do it and neither would DH!
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
I hear you 100%!! It be soooooo nice to have another person helping out around the house! Also, Hubs sex drive and mine don't always match, so it'd be nice to share him so I wasn't just disappointing him all the time by turning him down!
That being said, I'm a super jealous person, so I couldn't ACTUALLY do it. I'd be constantly worried Hubs liked her more than me!
coconut / 8234 posts
@highwire: I don't want a sister wife, I want my own wife! She can love LO and help me around the house but DH is off limits!
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@Mrs. Pen: Oh my gosh, TWO husbands?? No no no - I can't even have put out enough for the one I have! Two would be impossible!!
coconut / 8305 posts
I'm down for some commune type living, but definitely wouldn't be sharing DH!... I think that's much more appealing! lol
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
Like polygamy?
No way, I don't share and do not play nice with others.
cantaloupe / 6800 posts
I'm 100% down for it, assuming that she has no love interest in DH or his boy bits. Another woman to hang out with, help with housework, wash the dog, take care of LO (And me!) sounds like a dream!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
@Adira: bahaha I could have sex everyday and I'd be so happy.
but I was thinking more companionship/someone to take care of me rather than sexual needs.
idk how I (or DH) would feel about doing two men! lol.. that def couldn't ever happen haha
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
@runsyellowlites: I also thought the idea of a small "village" was sooo appealing! Several friends, all working together to raise all the kids, be friends, help out, etc... maybe not all in the same house but separate living quarters with a community building for holidays, meals, parties etc.
GOLD / eggplant / 11517 posts
@Mrs. Pen: @runsyellowlites: That's how most people used to live! I think it was better that way.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@Mrs. Pen: You go girl! I definitely don't want it every day. 
And I definitely see what you're saying about companionship, but my mind always goes to how much sex I'd be having if I had another husband, since I can't even keep up with the one I have!
persimmon / 1165 posts
Before I had a kid, I'd say no way, but now, I say "yes please!!". Especially one that likes to clean. I'll cook if she'd clean!
grapefruit / 4066 posts
haha!! i was just talking about this with DH the other day! i think it would be totally awesome to have another pair of hands around the house to help with LO and love her, each person getting more of a break, more sleep, etc. all sounds so nice...but the sharing of my hubs part, not so much
papaya / 10570 posts
I've always liked the idea in theory, if I could get over the jealousy (and I'm not sure I could). In practice, however, people come with their own needs, their own agendas and their own bad habits.... Imagine if you were struggling with IF and your sister wife kept getting pregnant (with your DH's baby). I mean - woah! Or if your sister wife became very sick and not only did you have to do all the housework, deal with her children as well as yours and run around after her but your DH spent all his free time with her or moped around during "your turn" to spend time with him because he was sad that she was so sick. I think people who make the polygamy thing work are pretty amazing, really. In practice - not for me!
cantaloupe / 6630 posts
@rahlyrah: ha ha ha!
If I could have had one for the first 6 months pp that would have been pretty cool.
GOLD / eggplant / 11517 posts
@Cherrybee: That happened in the show Sister Wives! His first wife had one baby, and then couldn't have any more. Then the husband went on to have like 10 more babies with the other wives. Wife #1 was definitely upset by the situation! He offered to do IVF with her so that they could have another baby but she didn't want to.
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
@Cherrybee: Agree!
To be honest, I don't really get why anyone would be OK with sharing their significant other! Is it not cheating bc you know about it or bc you said it's OK.
And I know...most of you are joking about it. 
eggplant / 11408 posts
@Cherrybee: I feel similarly-I really like the idea in theory. I think the community part is really appealing, but in practice, I'd be way too jealous, I think.
pineapple / 12802 posts
@Adira: I hear ya. 2 husbands seems like a whole lot of sex.
I think this just comes down to everyone needs to get a maid. LOL
pomegranate / 3980 posts
I couldn't share my family with another woman, I couldn't deal with even a nanny so another woman having an actual claim on my family would be completely out of the question. I guess I am just really jealous.
GOLD / eggplant / 11517 posts
@regberadaisy: I wouldn't consider it cheating if everyone agreed to enter into the situation willingly.
pear / 1895 posts
@runsyellowlites: Communal living is actually my dream! It just seems like the perfect setup, to me. We'd have a big garden, some chickens and goats (for milk and eggs), someone who liked to knit/sew could make adorable baby things. Someone else could wash my dishes...
But I would definitely be very picky about who was allowed to be a member, which is kind of against the whole Hippie movement/Free Love idea, isn't it?
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts
I wouldn't want to share my hubby or baby with anyone else lol I'm selfish!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
@.twist.: a maid/nanny/cook all in one 
but someone who we like enough to be friends with that's a tall order!
@Cherrybee: yeah definitely agree that those logistics would complicate things.
@regberadaisy: oh of course! hahaha def not serious one bit. except about the community living
cantaloupe / 6669 posts
I am way too jealous. I just want servants. Sorry, not sorry.
honeydew / 7586 posts
@regberadaisy: I agree with @highwire. If all parties are willing then I don't think it is considered cheating. There are an abundance of couples who swing who still have loving, fulfilling, trust-filled relationships. While not something I'd be ok with, I don't consider that cheating either.
pear / 1895 posts
@highwire: I love Sister Wives! I also loved Big Love, but it's even cooler to see a real-life polygamist family. I really have no problem with polygamy, if that's what you want to do any everyone is of age and consents. I think I'm just too jealous, naturally, for it to work for us.
GOLD / pomelo / 5737 posts
But what about you having to take care of her and dh's kids too? Or what about if dh prefers her and you get stuck with all the kids for the majority of the time and she just gets dh? Idk, too much risk for me!
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
@rahlyrah: @highwire: agree. If there's consent then it's not cheating.
DH will NEVER get consent from me! haha
coconut / 8475 posts
@highwire: it happens sucessfully in so many other countries! Obviously, there is some good to it!
Think about back in the day when men used to go to war and many never came back. There would be women and children who were homeless and lost because the father''s at that time made the money. And people had a lot more kids back then too. It was looked at as NOBLE for a man to marry his friends' widowed wife and take care of his kids! (I'm talking India..Arabia...)
On that note- the world is a different place now and we live in a different culture, so no, I wouldn't be able to do nor do I have the interest. But, I wouldn't dog anyone who did...to each their own!
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
@googly-eyes: makes me think of the emporer days when he had 50 wives and usually went to sleep with one wive that he truly loved. And everyone had their own building with their own kids.
And there is jealousy and hate. Who's to say you'll even like the other wives?
More than one female + one male living under one roof is just a bad idea imo! hahah Women are catty.
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
@TurtleDoves: China too. But I think that is a different scenario. It is more a "responsibility and duty" thing. There are no feelings involved. Most cases it does not transcend into a sexual relationship. You're not looking to breed with them.
admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts
@Mrs. Pen: it's an especially tall order if they have to work for free!!
GOLD / eggplant / 11517 posts
@googly-eyes: It would be a risk, but there's risk in monogamist relationships too that could be similarly awful and it isn't stopping anyone from getting married (serious spousal illness, spousal death, spousal infidelity/loss of love/divorce/etc.) plus there are step children that sometimes come with a regular monogamist marriage, so sometimes you take care of other people's kids that belong to your husband in that situation as well. And it is a bonus sometimes if you bond with those children!
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