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Every part of it sounds good to me except sharing DH's sexual attention. In theory everything else is great! And would be so helpful. But I just couldn't deal with the jealousy!

@highwire: Yes, and along with those children come another woman and sometimes that woman is far worse than you could ever imagine. Dealing with with an insane ex myself, has made me realize how much I actually love my husband for putting up with his ex's bullshit. (Re: restraining orders, physical & emotional abuse, drug use, immaturity, greed, jealousy, lies).

I would think that modern-day polygamy would involve the whole family when taking a new wife. Like, it wouldn't just be the husband bringing her home and being like "here's your new wife, ladies!". So, if you were a polygamist's wife, you'd get a say in who were your sister wives. Right? Probably?

@allison: did you watch that HBO Series on polygamy? I think technically speaking that's how that household worked. Butttt I think there was power play involved when certain wives had softer personalities than others etc. But I only watched like 2 or 3 episodes.

@rahlyrah: bahahahaha love!

I'd rather have two husbands than have another wife live with us (more income, more fun? teehee). I don't take direction well, and I don't share well. Or maybe I'm just better at sharing with men.

With that extra income, I'd hire a house cleaner and nanny for LOs. Because then I'd be their boss, and I'd still be calling the shots. heh.

@regberadaisy: Big Love? Yes, I loved that show!

@highwire: Personally I wouldn't want to marry someone who had kids before me if I didn't have kids before him. I've seen the stepmom thing play out negatively IRL that would discourage me, personally. I'm not saying nobody else should though.

Plus most of those risks could happen with more than one wife, too. More chance for it, imo.

@Anagram: that was my thinking as well.. two (padded, preferably) incomes so that I can have a nanny a few days a week, a maid and maybe a cook

I would get super jealous. What if Lo or duh likes her better

I want an intern wife. Non-paid, does what I tell her and only does things with my permission. She'd probably end up doing a lot of cleaning! lol!

@highwire: Hahaha, this is a great thread! I think it's likely a lot more work than you'd think, as all relationships take work but I can totally see some real benefits. I couldn't share my husband physically or emotionally, but I can see how it really could be something great for many people.

I wouldn't be down for sister wives, but I do love the village idea. I always say that I wish I lived across the street from my SIL. Our kids have so much fun together and many hands certainly do make light(er) work!

A friend of mine and her sister are both SAHMs in the same neighborhood and they do everything together. One watches all five kids while the other does the groceries for both families. They cook together, bathe the kids one after the other, give each other a break when they need it. I'd love something like what they have!