Wasn't sure where to put this, but I think its a lovely article. My sister went through something like this with her first, so I don't think its only a 'father' or 'man' thing.
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I saw this yesterday and loved it. I think there are a lot of people out there that don't feel that tidal wave of love when their children are born. I can definitely identify with some of his story.
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Great story! I could identify with so much of it. That hormone he talks about that women get to help them deal with the early months? yeah, I don't think I have it.
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I went through this. Me AND DH. I identify with it so much, even as the mother and not the father. Even down to FIL dying right before I got pregnant.
This article made me cry, like... ugly cry.
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This is a lovely article. I can wholeheartedly relate to this article, and NOT feeling overwhelmed by love, but confused and unsure and a bit disconnected from this creature that just was a crying blob. I hated being asked if i just looooooooooooved being a mommy because I wasn't sure who I was yet or what I was feeling. I found it difficult (if not impossible) to love being a mom to a newborn. They're just...you know, lol. And, of course, any honest answer was brushed aside or elicited nasty judgement.
this so much. I hope some other new moms/dads or soon-to-be new moms read this and know that all these feelings are totally ok and normal. And, for me, at least, as E got older and could interact and be more "human" with us and show emotion, all these initial feelings have totally gone away and have been replaced by the "overwhelming love" that others talk about. You will get there 
@loveisstrange, I had to stop and use some tissues, too. It's just refreshing to see.
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I love this so much! I definitely went through this! It took a while before I really bonded with Xander and fell in love with him. And it was so hard in the beginning when people would gush over him and act like he was the most amazing thing they had ever seen and I just couldn't SEE it and I felt so detached. And people really don't want to hear the truth from you - they want to hear that you're madly in love with your baby right from the beginning, and I got so many looks from people when I'd answer honestly about how I wanted to go back to work and how I didn't feel overwhelming love for him, just overwhelmed.
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Beautiful article! I sent it to my husband.
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Love this!!
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I saw this yesterday and sent it to DH. Love the article and the author's honesty. DH didn't even want kids when we first met. When DD was first born DH thought she looked like an alien. It took some time for them to truly bond. We laugh about it now because DH absolutely ADORES her!
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How beautiful!
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Great article! I also teared up...really lovely and well written. I can relate to a lot of it as well.
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This is wonderful.
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Love this.
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so so good. thanks for sharing!
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beautifully written! i'm glad he acknowledged, too, that the little girl might read this some day. (not that I think he shouldn't have written it)
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This was a lovely article. I know that I felt this way when my little girl came along; it has only been the last 8 weeks or so that I have felt effortlessly connected to her.
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@Cherrybee: I happened between 5-6 months for me too.
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Great article! Thanks for sharing.
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Very well written, I love his honesty and his sense of humor about the whole situation.
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I'm glad to see people actually talking about this. Some parents do have that instant connection, but not all. I really am trying to prepare myself for that and not freak out if it happens. I always compare everything to my dogs, and when we got our second I was shocked at how little I felt for him compared to the one we already have. I was really worried that I'd never like him as much and all that. But one day I realized that that bond had formed without me even noticing, and now I could never choose between them because I love them so much.
I also never truly bonded on that level with any of the kids I nannied, even when I was with them for over a year. I'm just assuming I bond slowly and am preparing myself for that when the time comes. I'd love to feel it immediately, but if I don't, I'm going to keep reminding myself that it's normal and it WILL happen eventually.
this so much. I hope some other new moms/dads or soon-to-be new moms read this and know that all these feelings are totally ok and normal. And, for me, at least, as E got older and could interact and be more "human" with us and show emotion, all these initial feelings have totally gone away and have been replaced by the "overwhelming love" that others talk about. You will get there 
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