Ive been horrified by the insensitive questions and comments I've heard since LO was born and went to NICU.

1) You're lucky you don't have to go through the miserable part of pregnancy.

And what I'd love to say in response: I'd take swollen ankles and restless nights and discomfort over NICU any day.

2) When is LO coming home?

This I don't know. They don't give out timelines because SO much can change SO fast. New hurdles can pop up out of nowhere and have to get worked through before LO comes home.

3) How does it feel to go home without your baby?

Um, why would anyone even ask this? How do you think it feels? Walking out of the room is like being stabbed in the heart a million times over and walking past the empty nursery makes it even worse. Getting up and pumping, when you want more than anything to have your baby snuggled up on your chest nursing, hurts beyond words.

4) Send pictures!

Uh, no. LO has a feeding tube and some other scary looking wires and I don't want you to post that on Facebook and me have to answer a billion questions. People already constantly bombard me wanting updates.

5) Ooh, I'm going to come visit!

No you're not. I'm not allowing anyone to visit. He has a compromised immune system and I'm not playing pass the baby. His health is infinitely more important than you visiting him. Once he's home, then we'll talk.

There are so many more and so much I wish I could say in response. It's so emotionally draining and no one seems to get it unless they've been there.