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I think DS has decided I'm the softy parent. He's taken to whispering in my ear if he wants something he thinks DH won't allow. Just what I need, him thinking that he can play us off each other.

I give in too easy and DS knows it, he gets away with way too much with me. He'll come to me an say 'nandy?' (candy) with a big grin on his face. Sure, why not.
'bear movie?' (Brave) Sure, why not.
Kitchen chair pulled up to the sink so he can splash? If it means I can get dinner made, sure, why not.

And I will totally use candy as bribes for him to get ready in the morning. Put your coat on and you can have a piece of candy...

Well, today I told my three-year-old to just put her socks on damn it. And I'm not feeding her veggies because she won't eat them. She eats a lot of turkey sandwiches. And lots of screen time. Because when I get home from work, I just can't do anything.

1. I am guilty of taking WAY too many pictures/videos of them

2. Screen time ..although I still think it is on the lower end

3. Raising my voice these days It is the tired Mama in me and I feel awful after!

Is there such thing as taking too many pictures?

My LO has too much screen time. We share McDonald's nuggets and fries for supper more than I would like to admit. She's almost 2 and still drinks from a bottle because she insists I hold her while she drinks it and I LOVE it.

ohh being a sleep crutch enabler!
I gave up on the fight sleep game!
If you need us we are there, our bed, your bed....rocking to sleep, whatever you need kiddo!

@FaithFertility: Guilty. I also don't correct her when she says sit-a-man. (cinnamon)

@Foodnerd81: I'm also on the phone too much.

Ohhhh and I buy her little gifts alllll the time. Like, weekly.

1. raising my voice, yelling, losing my temper. all the time. And then I expect DS to not throw tantrums. Sigh. I am really trying to work on it.

2. Always looking at the phone and not being in the moment with DS.

3. Over the weekend/holidays when I have to work, I ask him to draw with me. And when he is done drawing and started to get bored, and I really had to finish up some stuff, I get impatient and I still made him sit and draw with me instead of leaving what I have in hand and go do something else with him. It is the weekend/day off and I should be a fulltime mommy. It really started over the winter holidays and I need to stop doing that.

4. Not taking care of myself, which makes me not able to take good care of and be patient with DS.

5. Not wiping his face/mouth after breakfast (so he often has a milk mustache), combing /fixing his hair, tugging his uniform in (as I rely 100% on him on putting on his clothes in the morning while I do something else) and sometimes he leaves the house to go to school looking like he just got out of a tornado. The teachers must be wondering what a great job I am doing. Last week I was at his class for a mommy volunteer thing. I saw all the other kids are tidy and clean and I saw DS and his crazy hair. Oh Gosh, I was embarrassed.

6. Stressing out over meals and how much DS eats. All the time.

@avivoca: Same here with the veggies. Drives me crazy to constantly serve them and then throw them in the garbage. Every single meal.

I'm also guilty of using little bribes/distractions when I know it'll get her to cooperate. I'm hugely pregnant and so over the battle to eat dinner or go upstairs for bath, or get dressed to go to daycare so I'll find little "motivators". Lol

Being on my phone too much, for sure! Allowing screen time during dinner. I used to be such a stickler about that. I'm already a stickler about screen time in general and usually only allow 1 show/day. But lately, I've been "saving" up that 1 show to be right when I serve dinner to the kids.

My husband typically doesn't get home from work till 7, which is too late for their dinner, so I always feed them before he's home. I like to use that time to pack their lunches and backpacks for the next day, and if the show is on, I can do that. If there's no show, I end up needing to sit with them because LO2 will throw food more often, LO1 will be more picky. Basically, it's out of laziness because I can check out from parenting and just do prep--and then all my "work" is done before my husband gets home.

@Anagram: I totally did screen time during meal times for probably a few months! But then it backfired b/c she took forever to finish her food so now we're back to no screen time during meal times and she finishes eating in 20 minutes!

@Anagram: haha yeah i totally used the whole hour she takes to eat my dinner in peace, then pretty much finish cleaning up and then get her!

I swear all the rules have gone out the window during this pregnancy. I regularly bribe her with chocolate chips to do anything she'd not doing willingly and the screen time is insane right now. I tried to feed her pretzels and a cheese stick for lunch the other day because everything smells awful to me and makes me sick and she screamed "I want food!"

Yelling too much. It's so frustrating when I ask him to do something multiple times and he just ignores me (he is almost 5). Then I lose my cool.

Eating out too much. Cutting back on this now that I'm on maternity leave. Hoping to get some routines in place before I go back to work.

2 words. Bubble Guppies.

Holding my baby all the time. LO is in a clingy stage. Maybe if I let him cry just once he would realize that I will come right back, but it's hard when starts to cry.

Watching TV around him. He plays well while we watch TV, but still it's on.