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@secondtimearound: Maybe it's just me, but I don't understand why he would be defensive if he was where he said he was. I'm not sure what your past is, but it seems like you have trust issues, maybe something has happened in the past? If so, you really need to go to counseling together. I don't think turning a blind eye is going to help either on of you.
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I think you also have to consider your child...do you want him or her to grow up with this kind of behaviour, from both sides?
Marriage is not easy, I agree, but there has to be some baseline for appropriate behaviour from each partner.
I hope you find a workable solution.
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@secondtimearound: wow, that is a tough situation. I really don't think you should "keep the peace". Do you want to feel this way through the rest of your marriage? Have your child sense the distrust you have towards your husband? Technology mishap or not, his reaction was not healthy. I think you should explore and work through this issue with him and probably should involve a 3rd party counselor (maybe let him choose someone?).
I hope you can resolve this with him. Lies and distrust are really icky feelings.
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@secondtimearound: while you may not be arguing about it that isn't necessarily the same thing as peaceful if you are always worrying about what are the truth/lies. In a previous relationship I also had a SO who just couldn't seem to tell the truth about the most mundane issues. Then he started lying about bigger things.
I would really try and have open and honest communications with each other to be happy.
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Is it just him going to the movies by himself you are worried about? Or could knowing his real whereabouts and what he was up to do irreparable harm to your marriage?
Ignorance is bliss and keeps folks happily married. If your gut is telling you something is up your husband is being sloppy with his sneakiness. Whatever he is doing and not telling you, but you are sensing is causing you stress. Stress ais bad for your health.
Good luck.
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@looch: This is a very good point. You don't want your LO to continue to see this behavior and think it's ok to tell "white lies"
I feel as if he got defensive b/c he wasn't where he said he was. And to me, that's not something I would turn a blind eye to in order to keep the peace. Marriage is hard, and there are battles to be chosen (getting upset over DH missing the hamper) and things that you shouldn't let go.
Are you still seeking counseling together? Is it something you can bring up during your time together?
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