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I voted the first, but really it varies between the top two answers. A lot depends on DH! This week I am struggling to get that time, but other weeks it isn't an issue.

I need time to myself but it's hard to get it!

I'm a stay at home mom with no family close and my husband works a lot. We live in a small town, so while something like going for a pedicure and a target run sounds heavenly to me, it's just not even possible here!

I do get out for girls nights though!

Yes I need time for myself. T goes to daycare two 3/4 hour mornings a week- I'm still using my time to wrap up my work for my photography business I am closing at the end of the year. But it will continue after I am SAH FT. My Mom also comes to hang out with us for about 8 hours one day a week. Sometimes I run errands by myself, sometimes we hang out at the house, sometimes the three of us go do fun things.

DH is really good about taking DS for a while when I need to do something. Plus I have off on Fridays and DS is in school so I have the whole day to myself.

I definitely need time for myself. But I don't feel like I have a hard time getting it. Between DH helping with DD, taking time for myself after DD is asleep, and hiring the occasional babysitter, I don't feel like getting time for myself is an issue.

I definitely need time to myself and am fortunate to get it. My parents and MIL each come by once a week so I can get out alone - even if it's just to do some errands. My husband doesn't see M as much during the week so tries to take her on some one on one outings and he also usually goes to bed earlier than me so I get to have relaxing alone time at night.

Time for myself is SO important. I've always been an introvert so I need time daily to reflect and be alone whether it's for 20 minutes or a few hours . Some things I've done that have helped:

- hire a cleaning lady so I only have to do the daily pick up
- bottle feed so DH/others can help feed and I don't have to be near the baby 24/7. My sister will occasionally pick the girls up and take them for a couple of hours.
- both kids are in bed by 730/800 so I have the evenings
-I am very fortunate to have family nearby and they will often stop by for dinner and end up helping with the girls. Dd1 loves sleepovers at her grandparents .
- Dh is pretty awesome too and we try to give each other some time alone during the week

I definitely need time for myself!! But that is what my husband is for. We are a team and either one of us can tag out for a bit when we are burnt out and the other one will take over! We are partners in this parenting thing and we've found a really good balance where each of us gets whatever me time we need.

I need some time off and it is hard to get. I sah and Dh works long hours, so he is frequently not home until after bedtime, and his work can be unpredictable so even on the nights he plans to come home early so I can do something, sometimes things come up, so it's really frustrating. We just have one (younger single) bil nearby, and he has babysat on occasion but we don't ask often. We work it out better on the weekends but then I want family time anyway.

C just started a 2 hour drop off program so I get two hours a week all to myself and its great- but baby 2 will be here any day now so that will change again.

Overall I'm fine with it, even if it's hard, because we are working on it and it will get better eventually. But we both recognize its a struggle.

I definitely need me time and my husband understands. I go to the gym, go on walks, do errands, nothing terribly exciting but I need time to unwind.

I definitely need time for/by myself - otherwise I would never recharge myself and my patience. When I don't get time on a very regular basis (weekly) my stress level goes thru the roof pretty quick.

I don't find it hard to find time. I ask for it; I'm proactive about my needs because my needs matter just as much as anyone's else's in my family. My husband is also similar, so he gets it. He also is 100% in, and I don't really need to ask much - he can tell after 10 years when I'm getting "claustrophobic" and need time and he steps in so I get it.

My husband gives me the time when I need it. Usually 1-2 weekend mornings (every week) and an evening once every month or so... If I was desperate, I'd get a sitter for myself! And my husband and I try to do date night at least once a month. We love our son to pieces but make sure to take care of ourselves too!

I voted #1 but I think it needs some qualification -- I definitely need time to myself and I do get "alone time" but not necessarily "me time." My office is very small and my boss works from home a lot, so if my co-worker is out, I'm all alone that day. And we work overlapping schedules so there are always at least a couple hours each day when I'm there and she's not. And my DH has to work a couple evenings per week, so I'm after DD goes to bed, I'm alone until he gets back. So I DO have time during my week without anyone actively requiring my time and attention. But those times, I'm either working or doing chores or collapsed on the couch because I'm too exhausted to do the ninety-billion things on my list.

So, I rarely get the kind of time I need. I don't have many close friends in this city, and they all have kids of their own, so girls' nights or brunches or whatever don't happen much. And I find it really hard to get out and do things like shopping (for fun, not for necessities like groceries) because as a WOHM I want to maximize my time with DD. But by the time she is in bed, stores are pretty much closing. And weekends just get away from me, though once in a blue moon I get out while DD is napping. It's hard, and it can be lonely, and even when I do get out I feel guilty not being with my family so I don't really enjoy it. I don't know the answer, but it sucks sometimes.

We give each other "me time" sometimes just a trip to Target by myself is all I need. Going for a haircut once every two months is great, but sometimes he just takes the boys to the gym with him so I can catch up on things. Sometimes I take the boys out so he gets a break, or I tell him to go enjoy a beer after work.

I thrive in doing my work, but I don't really count it as me time since I am usually helping my students problem solve, and that is hardly relaxing, just more mentally and socially stimulating for me.

A very apt post for me right now -- currently struggling with this. DH is really good at taking time for himself, but me not so much. I really need to make a point of scheduling some me-time in for the week, but it's hard between work, commuting, chores, and wanting to spend time with my 18 month old, DH and our friends

Now that I'm a mom, I realize how important it is for me to have time for myself. For me, it's a necessity. The first few years (and my daughter is now 3.5, so it's ongoing) is tough. But it was much harder when she was a baby. I think that most of the people that automatically comment about "just enjoying the younger years" get help in some way. I say this because everyone that I know that has said this either has 1) older kids and they don't remember how it was and 2) when their kids were babies, they had family close-by to help. Those comments used to get to me as well.

I'm very lucky that my son is in daycare for the 4 days a week that I work, but I get 2 weeks holidays every 10 weeks or so, plus a 7 week break that I'm in right now (summer break in Australia)...teaching schedule really doesn't get any better than in Australia! So, during those 2 week breaks he still goes to daycare for at least 3 days (if I'm honest usually all 4), and I laze around the house, run errands, go to movies by myself (my FAVOURITE activity) and generally unwind from the craziness of the previous term. Its so good for my mental health. I love being a mom, but I think I have less tolerance for the day to day than most...

I def. need alone time. Basically it is every evening after our first is in bed (the second is in bed before that). So from about 9pm to 11:45pm is me time. I don't really do anything but watch TV, veg on the couch with a tablet or some crochet though.

I voted that I find time because I am only pt WOH. Nap time is me time every day (or work time but I enjoy the chance to use my brain). I also enjoy my job and getting out of the house alone, even though I'm working it feels great. However actual me time that is not nap time or work time is rare.