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I definitely need time for myself, but I"m fortunate that I get every other Friday off, so I feel like that fills my quota. Those days off (with the kids in daycare) is pure BLISS, even if I'm doing chores around the house, grocery shopping, or going to appointments.
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I enjoy time to myself and I get it once the kids go down at night and on the occasion my husband will take them both so I can meet girlfriends for dinner or whatever. Mine are a bit older though, which makes it easier. When they were younger it was much harder!
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Who is she talking to that would call her selfish for wanting me time?! I feel so bad that she was shamed for feeling that way until she talked to you!
I def have a really hard time to take time for myself, and often I let resentment build up inside if I see DH having time to himself and I don't. But I do it to myself; even if DH tells me to go do something for myself, I feel so guilty not spending time with DD b/c I already WOH all week and nights/weekends are all I have.
I have to continually remind myself that DD needs a happy mom too, not just a mom that is with her every chance she gets.
This is def a goal for the new year!
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Definitely definitely. Some of the 'time to myself' I get is during my commute - not the #1 way I'd choose to spend my time but I listen to podcasts so it's kind of relaxing. I'm also lucky that my son is usually asleep by 7:30 so we have some time each evening and my husband is always happy to go play video games if I just want to chill and watch Vanderpump Rules. On the weekends I find it harder because I feel bad asking my husband to take our son by himself so I can do nothing.
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I'm super introverted and so being around people just zaps the strength out of me. I do need time to recharge but it has become difficult to do so. Partly due to guilt and the other part is just lack of time. When we put DS down for the night then we have maybe an hour or two to ourselves but then that usually involves getting dishes done, picking up and then maybe watching a show. I want to be able to just go somewhere and read a book and drink a glass of wine. That's all.
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I absolutely need time for myself, it's a non-negotiable. If I'm stressed, I make everyone else in my household feel stressed, so I make myself a priority. I WOH, fwiw.
Biggest time/sanity savers:
-Grocery shopping during my lunch break. This way I don't have to schlep 1 or 2 kids with me to the store since DH has such a variable schedule. We have 2 work fridge/freezers and I just put one bag in each until I leave for the day.
-Going on walks during my lunch break. If I sit at my desk all day everyday, I will go nuts. Even though it's not exhausting exercise, it's at least something and gets me outside and enjoying nature unencumbered by anyone else.
-Not caring about how clean the house is. I think I do dishes... 3 times a week? It's gross, sure, but I would rather spend my evenings with my kids, and later evenings with DH or watching trashy tv to clear my head than the misery that is washing dishes. I've stopped feeling guilty about it unless we have company. -
Thank you again everyone for the comments! I loved reading all of them. I'm glad for this community.
@snowjewelz: Haha good question. I asked her. The two other ladies she talked to at work is a mom with 2 grown kids (our age) and the other one has two middle school age kids. I told my co-worker that they probably just forgot how hard it was!! Haha. Now that their kids are older... they probably have no trouble finding time because their kids can just do things independently now. That's my theory. I'm not sure about the other people she talked to.
@smocks: One of the things I told my co-workers was dishes too! Heck we ate off paper plates... longer than I would like to admit (a few months and still maybe 1-2 times a week) just to get a handle on the chores. I feel you!
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@Raindrop: Or they miss that baby stage so much they can't imagine why you wouldn't want to treasure every, single, second
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@snowjewelz: Yes that could be it too!!! I must admit before I had my second I really missed babies... I totally forgot *how* hard it was ... until I actually had a baby again. Haha.
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I do need it (especially now), but don't get it super often. DH and I work opposite schedules so if he is home and available to watch the kids, I usually need to be working. Sometimes I get to run errands alone (Costco, Target, post office) and that's nice. I usually have some sort of a girls night (just an hour or two) with my girlfriends once a month.
More often than not, my "unwind time" means running errands with either my 3.5 year old or my 2 year old, but having just one of them feels like a vacation compared to running errands with all 3.
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I definitely need me time, even if it's just running errands by myself or having time to do nothing but read or knit. When I was working part-time, this was actually pretty easy to come by because my parents who watch S could stay slightly later or come slightly earlier than I really needed to work. And I didn't feel guilty at all because I was home most of the time.
Now that I've gone back to work full time, I feel like any non work time should be spent with S. And I can't really get time before or after work because of when daycare ends. Plus DH usually doesn't get home from work until at least 7. The kicker is that S is in that obnoxious stage when he still sort of needs a nap or he'll be a mess by 7, but when he does nap he's up until 9 easily. So, yeah, no me time right now
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I'm so glad you were able to connect with each other, moms need to support each other. I don't need to tell another mom how much I appreciate my son! They feel the same way and I have met the occasional mom who cares about nothing but her kids but most of us crave the balance of including some time for ourselves. I voted that it's not that hard for me- most of the time. My husband is really good about giving me time and we share most chores and my son goes to bed early, so I'll usually spend the first hour doing stuff around the house or working if I have to, then after that it's my relaxing time. I really need it!
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Yes, I do need time to myself and I struggle to get it. My husband works like crazy and when he's home, I like to spend time with him. That said, I probably get out on my own/with friends once a month
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I would like "me" time but I rarely get it. Unless you count my commute time. And my children are night owls so I don't even get time in the evening. It's really not a complaint. Just a fact for this season of life. I don't think I need it though - I would just like it! But to be honest, when I'm not with my kids I often feel guilty - can't explain why but I do.
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I stay up way too late and take me time then. I also try and do a few things a month out with friends, a hair appointment, DH and I will take a date night or two-- anything that I get to go do sans kids counts!
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