DH and I are going to NC in October with his family. It's a long weekend with MIL, FIL, SIL and BIL plus niece and nephew. We will be staying in a cabin in the mountains for 4 nights. There is a washer and dryer in the cabin. I think we should bring the cloth diapers. LO hasn't worn disposables since we left the hospital, and I don't think its worth it to buy a bunch of sposies for one weekend when we have access to a W/D.

Here's the catch: DH thinks its rude of us to wash diapers in a shared W/D for the weekend. He thinks its gross and that his family will feel put out that we used the shared W/D to wash our diapers. First off, it's only 4 days. I think it's highly unlikely that anyone else would even need to wash clothes in 4 days (I wouldn't if it weren't for the diapers). Secondly, we wash diapers every other day in our home W/D and wash our regular clothes in the same machine. There has never been a stray poop or weird smell in any of our laundry, so I don't see why DH can't realize that its the same even if we aren't in our home. I told him to talk to his family if he is unsure about their feelings about the diapers, but he is hesitating.

I'm annoyed that he says he loves the cloth diapers and is happy with our decision to use them, but is acting embarrassed about them around his family? His parents bought half our stash! I've washed them in my sisters house, and my dads house and neither of them had a problem with our diapers in their machine. Sometimes I feel like DH puts his need to please others ahead of his own wants (and in this case, mine)

Am I thinking about this in a selfish way? I just can't see his family minding diaper laundry, but we won't know for sure unless we talk to them about it. If you cloth diaper, have you/would you travel with them if it meant sharing a W/D? If you use disposables, would it bother you to be in a shared space with cloth diaper laundry?

Sorry if this was long and ramble-y....