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Because my MIL wouldn't adhere to my way of parenting (she, too, rocked LO to sleep even AFTER we nap-trained!) and after having to ask her twice to please do things my way, she wouldn't so I simply no longer let MIL watch LO without me or the hubs present.

The only thing you can do is not leave your children with them. If they do it in front of them nicely tell that they raised you/your hubs well but this is your baby to raise.

So far, this hasn't been an issue with my own mother (mostly because she lives 2500 miles away). But my ILs watch DS once a week and it does frustrate me when they don't at least attempt to try to stick to our nap time routine (the only thing I ask them to be conscious about). They allow him to fall asleep in their arms, on their shoulder, rock him to sleep, rub his head, put him in his rocker and rock him in it... when he should be put down in his crib while drowsy. It's true that there is a difference in baby after they spend time with him. I actually had a meltdown and SO and I had a huge argument over it last week. Finally, I decided I had to adjust my own mentality and try to think of their one day a week with them as an "abnormal" day, i.e., if I were to run errands with him, etc. Also, I've decided that my love for my son will just have to overpower my annoyance with ILs and not let them get to me as much.