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  1. doxielove

    persimmon / 1388 posts

    Popping in to declare that my body is confusing!!!!

    I have my lap surgery scheduled for this Friday, which is CD13. I usually don't O until CD16ish, so, no issues with potentially being pregnant (ha!) during the surgery. But. I had an ultrasound yesterday (since it's been over a year since my last one - my doc wanted to check to see if there's anything new going on). The tech noted that I already ovulated this cycle...! Probably the day before the scan...meaning, CD 8!? I've never, ever ovulated that early. When I met with my doctor, she was initially very hesitant to move forward with the lap this Friday, since DH and I ended up BD O-1. After 4 years of never being pregnant, I highly doubt that this is the magical cycle I'm KU. Thanks, body, for throwing me a curve ball!! Thankfully, my doc said that looking at my uterine lining measurements, it looked like I hadn't ovulated. So, surgery is a-go.

    I would think that looking at my ovaries would be a better indicator of O than my lining, though??? Sorry for the rant!!

  2. LibbyLou

    kiwi / 739 posts

    @doxielove: that is so bizarre!! Cd 8 ovulating is nuts given your history. Is there some sort of blood work that could detect it?

  3. LibbyLou

    kiwi / 739 posts

    @OurEastAndWest: and welcome!! I'm just seeing this. We are quiet lately but would love to have you!

  4. doxielove

    persimmon / 1388 posts

    @LibbyLou: A 7dpo progesterone draw would confirm, but 7dpo falls past my surgery date anyways. My LP is usually only 10 days, so I guess if and when I get my period late next week, I'll have my answer.

  5. Bibliolove

    kiwi / 526 posts

    @doxielove: odd!! Sounds like the tech was wrong though? CD 8 is pretty early, especially if that's not your typical pattern.

  6. doxielove

    persimmon / 1388 posts

    Well ladies, I'm happy to report I finally have a diagnosis: endometriosis. My doctor removed a ton of scar tissue from my right ovary and tube. That's all I know for now until my follow up visit in 2ish weeks, although she did communicate the next 6 months is when she'd like us to achieve pregnancy, since of course endo is a stubborn little devil that will pop back up. So, I'm relieved and optimistic. And not really in that much pain!

  7. LibbyLou

    kiwi / 739 posts

    @doxielove: awesome news! Well not awesome but it's something that you have a diagnosis and it can be treated accordingly. So, yay for that!

    Rest up and the best tip I got after surgery was to elevate my hips to dissipate the shoulder pain and extra air they give you. I felt so much better after doing that!

  8. OurEastAndWest

    cherry / 134 posts

    @DOXIELOVE I'm sorry you had/have to go through that but so glad you have a diagnosis and a plan now!!

  9. Tionn3

    kiwi / 680 posts

    Bumping. Just got my BFN, so...it looks like I'll be joining this thread for the next cycle. Anyone else still out there?

  10. LibbyLou

    kiwi / 739 posts

    @Tionn3: still here! Sorry about your bfn.

    We are a quiet bunch lately but maybe we need some newbies to liven it up.
    Are you just hitting month 6? Doing anything different this next time around?

  11. Tionn3

    kiwi / 680 posts

    @LibbyLou: I just finished cycle 6, so we are onto cycle 7. The whole six months I charted and used opks...it seems like on the surface everything is working as it should. My DH wants to not track for cycle 7, 8 and 9, Cycle 9 we will be on vacation so that makes sense. I'm having trouble contemplating the possibility of relinquishing whatever control I've deluded myself into thinking I have.

  12. LibbyLou

    kiwi / 739 posts

    @Tionn3: I know exactly what you mean. My DH also didn't want to track and make sex a chore so for the first year we were NTNP but I was tracking via app. Once I started opk the app was prettt spot on. I don't think men always get that you have 3-5 days that you can get pregnant. Plus everything else has to align!
    We got pregnant using preseed- I always suggest that! I would totally just follow my app and not temp these months. At least know how realistic your chances are.

  13. winniebee

    hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts

    I am sort of a misfit. We've been trying for take home baby #3 for a year....4 early miscarriages, TMFR at 18.5 weeks, and now just kind of in no mans land....currently not trying not preventing. So, clearly I get pregnant pretty easily but with repeated losses I don't feel like I belong on the normal POAS board either.

  14. Tionn3

    kiwi / 680 posts

    @winniebee: Im so sorry for all your loses. That must be really hard.
    @LibbyLou: I promised my husband I would get off the crazy train next month. I am at least going to make a really good effort to try and keep things chill. I am just discouraged after 6 months of BFNs. My mom seems to think it is not that unusual for it to take a year, but I have to wonder, if in those statistics they also include people that aren't having timed intercourse. It just seems that after 6 months of timed intercourse you would be pregnant...unless something was amiss... which I am extremely fearful of.

  15. Shantuck

    pear / 1766 posts

    @winniebee: Thinking about you.

  16. Plainpistachio

    cherry / 116 posts

    Perusing the boards to distract myself from FB at work this slow afternoon.

    @doxielove yay for a diagnosis! Any changes in your plans now that you know?

    @TIONN3 I came onto the 6 month TTC board in my 7th cycle. I had so many questions! Coincidentally, it ended up being the cycle I conceived, and my 1st baby, a little guy is due here in just a few weeks. It's such a weird feeling to be in the 6-12 TTC range, because you aren't allowed (so to speak) to ask the doctor questions until 12 months, and you also realize that the strong and amazing ladies who are 12+ are so deep into their diagnoses and plans that you don't want to come off newb. 6-12 months is a special and weird no-man's-land where you kind of have to go out there and do some things on your own. It sucks! Just keep tracking those temps and cycles, and start doing the little tricks of the trade if they make you feel more in control. I started acupuncture, went to the vitamin store and loaded up on B-6 and a bunch of other recommended vitamins from the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I also even bought progesterone cream from Amazon and rubbed it on my chest to see if it did anything to lengthen my 8-9 day luteal phases! It's funny because I did conceive the cycle I started doing all those things, but I have no idea if any of them did anything whatsoever! My husband was reluctant to get tested, but agreed to do so to help me calm down. He got the specimen cup and we were all ready to do the test when I decided we'd wait until after my next period that never came.

    People kept telling me "stop trying and it will happen, you're stressing yourself out" etc. Screw that, it happened the month that I was trying the MOST!

  17. Tionn3

    kiwi / 680 posts

    @Plainpistachio: Thank you for such kind words! Yes, it is a strange no man's land, I'm now going onto month 8 and trying not to freak out because I'm still in that 12 month range. I'm just hoping that if I keep doing my thing that it will hopefully happen. If nothing happens, then we will be able to get some answers in March. For now, I'm just going to keep taking my vitamins, doing my OPKs, monitoring my CM and BD every other day. It's all I can do right now.

    Also super exciting for your little one to be due in a couple of weeks!

  18. Plainpistachio

    cherry / 116 posts

    @TIONN3 I'm such a planner and analyzer and need-to-know-it-all type, so it's torture to wonder. Rooting for you!

    Thanks! Even now it's hard for me not knowing how and when labor is going to go down, lol. I surrender to the fact that I don't get to know everything.

  19. Tionn3

    kiwi / 680 posts

    @Plainpistachio: I'm a total planner. The not knowing is definitely what is killing me. I guess I should get used to it though, because you're totally right, even when you do get pregnant there is still a lot of not knowing with the pregnancy, labor and delivery, etc. I'm so excited for you though, I'm sure everything is going to work out!

    I just talked with a friend who is an obgyn and she reassured me that sometimes it really does just take longer for some people even when they are timing intercourse. It gave me more hope for sure, maybe even renewed motivation for cycle 8 =]

  20. Plainpistachio

    cherry / 116 posts

    @Tionn3: Oh, yeah! That's another thing, my sister is a doctor and she kept saying, there's a reason they make you wait a year, it's not because they like to torture you. She was right in this case!

  21. Bibliolove

    kiwi / 526 posts

    I'm still chugging along. I've been reading about childfree lives and infertility, which has helped me overcome the intense grief and anxiety from the past year. I have always been a person that has embraced change and opportunity in my life, so I'm glad for that trait now. I still desperately want a kid obviously, but I don't think I will undergo treatment if that is what it comes to (for a number of reasons).

  22. Tionn3

    kiwi / 680 posts

    @Bibliolove: How long have you been trying for? My husband and I also think we will probably explore living child free if we are ultimately unable to conceive. We have both kind of agreed that IVF isn't an option for us...or more like he decided, but I don't think I would do it either...who knows.

  23. Bibliolove

    kiwi / 526 posts

    @Tionn3: we started Aug of 2015 and I'm on my 16th cycle now. I know that might be early days yet to some, but to me it has felt much longer. We have well-timed intercourse, so I will work with an RE for diagnostics.

    Whatever we decide, it won't be an easy decision.

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