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I'm so sorry. I have had three miscarriages, all around 7-8 weeks, and I have been trying for two years to have a second child. I got my fifth bfp on the 2-year anniversary of getting my IUD removed, and now I am back at the 8w mark. My miscarriages all had issues with finding a heartbeat at 6w, so I feel a lot of relief to make it to this stage. But I just found out that this pregnancy is identical twins which makes it a high risk pregnancy (not to mention the insanity that will follow the birth!).

Anyway, I think all you can do is remember that the only thing you can do is try again. The monthly tww sucks and makes you feel like you are on a constant rollercoaster.

It is a totally legitimate choice to stop trying, or just take a break, if you think the stress is too much for you. Maybe you need some time to process your grief and regroup. You have time before you need to decide on next steps anyway.

Do you have the option to get an analysis of your miscarriage? I did this for my last miscarriage, and it helped to know that my baby had a trisomy disorder (#6) that is incompatible with life. So there is nothing I could have done to reverse the course of what happened.

Hugs.

I'm really sorry for your loss

I found acupuncture was helpful for helping me to carve out space to relax and process my feelings after my loss, and it had the added benefit of helping my cycle to regulate. I was able to find a group place near where I live that was very affordable. I did end up having another (earlier) loss but I think having processed and come to terms with my feelings about the first loss helped me to cope and recover more quickly.

I had a loss after my first son at 8 weeks. The miscarriage was very drawn out and more emotional (at first I was okay, then little by little i fell apart). We sat out a couple cycles, and then I had a chemical, then got pregnant with my now 9 month old baby. I went very type A on it (I charted, quit caffeine and alcohol, did accupuncture andtook all the herbs). In hindsight I think all that proactiveness wasn’t really necessary - it was just a matter of timing. I was 39 when I delivered him. I’m sorry for where you are at now - but know that one day this will be in the past, and many of us here have been through it and come out the other side.

I had my first son at 35 (no problems conceiving him at all!) and then had trouble conceiving our second. I was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve which meant my old eggs were crappy. I had an early miscarriage at 6 weeks and then the next cycle got pregnant again, only to lose it at 8 weeks. I was extremely upset: frustrated, angry, hormonal, sad, disappointed. We took a break for 2 months and I focused on me. I got myself fit and we went on a beach vacation and then came back and tried again. We did an IUI which didn’t work and then we were going to try one more medicated cycle (clomid) before trying IVF. Well that one worked and he is turning 2 this week. I gave birth to him at 38.