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Ugh, I would be so annoyed if my in-laws asked me these questions. Luckily, they don't. Sorry. Hugs! We all know you are trying!

YES! I used to get that all the time from my in laws (mainly MIL). But she would do it in a subtle way which was also very annoying. At that point, I'd rather have had her come out and just ask me "When are you gonna have a baby?" She would say things like "Oh, I heard so and so is pregnant. How excited her mother must be.". UGH! Welllllll, we got pregnant and then I ended up having an ectopic pregnancy which required surgery to remove part of my left tube. That shut her QUICK. She never mentioned anything about baby making after that.

But I feel ya! It's not like their constant badgering is going to make you get pregnant any faster. If anything, it'll make you more stressed out and maybe make it even worse!

@adira: I didn't tell my in-laws we were trying either for the same reason....that they might bring it up even more! I just smiled and ignored them and would be really really vague with my answers. I think it bothered them that I was being so vague about it. hehehe. I guess in my own way, it was fun torturing them with my vagueness.

For me, it got to a point where I just wanted to get pregnant so that I can just shut them up. And that was a horrible and senseless reason to want a BFP. And it quickly snapped me back to reality. Creating this baby is about you and your DH and when the time comes, it will be perfect for both of YOU, nobody else. That's all that matters. Everyone else can just hurry up and wait.

That's awful I'm so sorry..

I told someone when I started trying and she started asking mr every week if I was pregnant, it was sooo irritating. Never doing that again.

My SIL just found out last year that she can't conceive, and if she did, she wouldn't carry the baby to term. She's been married to my brother for over 5 years and people ask ME when they're going to have kids. It's awful and I can't even imagine how much more awful it is for them

Luckily my family is sensitive about things like this so no one asked me. But my friends! Sheesh, EVERYONE would ask and it would be so obnoxious. It irritated me that I would be sarcastic and says, "It'll happen when it does."

@Adira: Honestly, I would just let them know that you are trying to have babies and it's not as easy as everyone thinks. Sometimes people just need to be put in their place no matter who they are. I would probably say something like, "Well, we're trying. We've been trying for x months now. The comments about us getting on the baby train certainly don't help my stress level with the fact that we haven't made one yet!!!!"

So so sorry! My friend had to deal with the same thing. She tried for 2 years and everyone around her kept having babies. She was married for 6 years so of course everyone kept asking her. I didn't know at first, but I never asked because I didn't like when people asked me, especially after my miscarriage. And I had s feeling something was wrong because she'd occasionally snap at people .... but now she's pregnant finally!

Hope you get your bfp next month. And hope your family stops bugging you!

@Adira: ((HUGS)) I'm so sorry! We went through this when we were trying. We were the 'first couple' to get married, then Hubby's cousin followed 6 months later. Well, everyone kept waiting for us to announce that we were pregnant. We didn't really start trying until we were married for 9 months. Well, in that time the cousins announced they were pregnant. Well, we followed 3 months later. Everyone was so happy and kept talking about the babies.

Well, we miscarried at 20 weeks. Now, everyone just doesn't know what to say. I will see them this weekend and I know the whole conversation will be about 'when can we try again', 'are we trying again', 'it's ok that this happened--we are young and can try again', 'you guys are strong--this is why it happened to you, others wouldn't be able to handle it.'

It makes me so tired having to deal with them sometimes.

@banana: My in-laws say absolutely nothing about grandbabies since we had our miscarriage. They were really chill about it all before hand, but since August, they don't mention babies at all!