DS is 14 months old. Since we stopped breastfeeding cold turkey about 2-3 weeks ago (may or may not be related to abrupt weaning) he seems to have lost a lot of his attachment to me
Sometimes he cries if SIL or DH pass him to me. This never ever happened before as I was always his *favourite*.
Has anyone else experienced this? Is it a phase?Or a developmental milestone of sorts? I feel hurt about it but should I?
apricot / 294 posts
Does/did he root or seem to want to nurse? Did he use to comfort nurse? When he cries after you take him, what calms him down?
My son is 14 months and while we are still breastfeeding, we are going much longer between feedings and sometimes I am distracted or busy when he wants to nurse and he will get upset (similar to a tantrum) and start to cry. And I have noticed he is more attached to his father lately.
persimmon / 1281 posts
@Myicitygirl: yes he comfort nursed A LOT. He calms down easily with distraction with a toy or snack but the initial wails for the previous holder are pretty desperate sometimes when he gets into my hands.
pomegranate / 3375 posts
Our LO started to get a lot more independent at that age ... she's a firecracker now (18 months). I wonder if this is a normal developmental milestone, that feels a little more personal since it's coinciding with the end of nursing? Hugs to you!!!
papaya / 10343 posts
I wouldn't worry about it, I bet it is just a phase! Fiona will often do this to my husband, especially if she knows that I am handing her off and then leaving. It isn't that she doesn't want to be with him, it's that she doesn't want me to go. But then yesterday my husband got home from work and she ran over and hugged him for-ev-er and when he left the room to change out of work clothes and I grabbed her she cried. My husband was like "what did you do to her today!?" lol but really I think sometimes she just has a hard time with change. Like WE are deciding when she gets passed off and maybe she wasn't done with the person holding her yet.