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I think those are all valid concerns, although I can't believe people are saying that to you - especially regarding potential divorce!! My husband and I are thinking he is going to snipped shortly after we have our second baby and our thoughts are this - it is a pretty simple and reversible procedure! So heaven forbid something tragic should happen, a vasectomy is not a permanent procedure. You could always wait like a couple years if you aren't totally sure you are done having kids. But the other concerns, meh.

@Mrs D: That is definitely an interesting thought and something to look into. So you would just do IUI if you thought you wanted to have another.

Same! My husband's vasectomy is scheduled Dec. 11. We just had our second on Sept 25. I feel like some people think it's too soon, but this was always the plan. We wanted 2 kids. We have 2 kids. Neither of us has ever had baby fever, our first pregnancy was a surprise and the second was planned based on reason, not emotion. I have had complications with both births, the second one was potentially life threatening. I would be TERRIFIED to get pregnant again at this point. I never want another baby. My husband never wants another baby. And if we lost one of our kids, that's a thing we'd never recover from and having another kid wouldn't replace them anyways so wtf kind of argument is that.

@Anya: next wife's problem later on!! bahahah!

My OB is adamant that no one do anything permanent for 5 years, but she will happily give me a 5-year IUD until then. She says too many people come back after 3-4 years and have changed their mind...

That said, we're 1-and-done, and have never once wavered in that. DH will be getting his vasectomy soon. MANY of the husbands in my neighborhood mom group have already done it, and rave about it.

@littlejoy: I'm having lunch with the friend who suggested it to me. I'm going to get all her info! I'll pass it along!

@agold: Yes, you would just pay for an IUI should you ever decide to move forward.

We are certain we do not want any more kids in our current situation, but who knows what could happen and if circumstances were different, I could maybe consider it.

Also - I know in theory vasectomy's are reversible but I have watched too many friends not have them be reversible to bank of that. So for me, I am more comfortable taking measures ahead of time to not worry about reversing it!

@agold: No - not to my knowledge. I have 3 close girlfriends who husbands have had vasectomy's reversed only to end up not so lucky...they dont always work once reversed...

@Mrs D: Oh, got it! That makes sense! Such a bummer. So freezing sperm is something even more that I will consider. I didn't even think of that before!

@Mae: Yep. I understand your viewpoint. And really.. no one should be making "arguments" over this issue. It's such a personal choice. And one person's thoughts on it are no more or less "wtf" than anyone else's thoughts.

@agold: I remember seeing that family on Oprah years ago.

If you are 100% go for it. I had my tubes tied after #3, but I'm older and no way could handle 4. But I also think of it as I can't get pregnant anymore. But if some crazy WTF event happened I could have a baby again through IVF. My ovaries and uterus are still there!

We are very firm in our decision of being done at two and are LOs are 3 and 6. Regardless of any what if’s, I know I never want to be pregnant again and as my DH is already 40 and I’m approaching my late 30s, our baby making days are definitely over. My DH is supposed to schedule a vasectomy soon and I cannot wait. I’ve been dealing with an IUD that I don’t particularly love ever since our youngest was born, and am anxious to have it removed.

I am FINALLY pregnant with #2 now after two years of trying. We decided a LONG time ago that our finances will not allow a family with three kids, even though that's what we originally planned. When this one's nearly born DH will get snipped with no regrets. We are now 38 years old, it's time to be done for us.

My DH is going to be 41, and I will be 38 this year, and we have decided to go this route in the next year or so... we've also heard some of that from some people, but others around the same age as us are like, GO FOR IT. haha. I feel fairly certain we won't have any regrets.

I'm surprised at all the push back you're receiving! If you guys both feel you're done and happy with your decision, I'd go for it! I know many couples who have chosen permanent birth control when they know their family is complete and I don't think many people question it. When you know, you know! Also you can't possibly always plan for the "what ifs" in life.

I can't believe people think they have a say!

If you're sure, you're sure. It's really not their business.

@agold: I agree - the "what if" something happens to one of both of my children is the reason we're holding off on any permanent birth control. I'm young enough to start over if necessary and I can't imagine not having a family... It's not something I like thinking about, but it's definitely a big reason we're waiting.

This is why we haven't shared too much about my husband's scheduled vasectomy. People just suck. Of course when we say we are done sometimes they'll say, "Never say never! You better take care of that!" And we just smile and say nothing, because we are, but the few times we've said, "Oh, he's getting snipped," eyeballs fall out of heads.

I get moments of cold feet already and take comfort in the fact that vasectomies are almost always reversible, if it came to that. But I know we're done and it's going to be so nice to have that peace of mind.