I'd love to hear your experience with visitors coming after your baby was born. Here's my situation: My DH gets 4 weeks paternity leave (!) (He works for a crazy law firm, and it's one of the few good things they do lol) Our families live 8+ hours away by car, 1.5hrs by plane. My sister wants to come right after the baby is born to help us around the house and help me figure out breastfeeding, any medical issues, etc. She's a Dr and has also breastfed all 3 of her girls well past age 2, so I know she'll be helpful in that sense. She would probably stay 5ish days to help me get settled. Both of my parents have passed away in the last 5 years, and my sister and I are really close. However, sometimes she and my DH butt heads... they both kind of have strong personalities 
My in-laws want to come 3 weeks after baby is born and stay for a week. I am fine with these visitors because it's hard enough being away from family, and this is a special occasion to celebrate. I love my in-laws, and I know they'll be helpful and good company. Now DH's sister is saying she wants to come sometime in there, too. Again, I don't really mind, but DH is feeling like his entire month off with me and baby is getting filled up with all of these visitors, and he's feeling overwhelmed. We argued about it last night 
Phew, sorry for the novel, but if you live far away from family, and had visitors stay with you, what was it like? Would you recommend or not? What was/ wasn't helpful? Thanks in advance!!
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I would ask your SIL to maybe come after your DH goes back to work. You'll want the company then!! My parents came when DD was born but only stayed a week. My sister came when DD was 3 weeks old and DH had gone back to work!
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I would have SIL come the week DH goes back to work, you will appreciate a second set of hands to help out while you are still healing!
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That's what I was thinking, too, but I don't want to hurt her feelings.... Maybe I'll just tell DH and her to work it out and stay out of it.
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How big is your home? How far apart are your bedroom, nursery, and guest room? Are you comfortable nursing/being topless in front of most f these guests?
I completely agree sil should come after Dh goes back to work. Our families are far away too- 5 hour drive for mine, across the country for mil. We ended up having no overnight visitors for the first two weeks, then my mom came ad stayed a week, then dh's mom came an stayed. Dh went back to work after about 10 days so I had a couple of days alone before my mom came. It worked for us bc I liked having a little time to get settled just the three of us. I love my mil but I'm glad we had a little extra time bf she came since we were more comfortable with things by then- like she asked a couple of times if I was sure the baby was getting enough from breastmilk. Earlier it would have made me really doubt myself but by then I felt more sure about it.
I would have your Dh stress how much you want her help after he goes back to work, rather than the fact that family visits are eating up all of his bonding time.
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We had my in laws and my parents stay with us for a few weeks immediately after birth and omg!! It got so overwhelming the first night trying to figure everything out. It was nice to have them around to help cook and clean, but I think next time around, I'd like if they came a lil later so we can get situated first.
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@Foodnerd81: We have a 3 bedroom split level house... it's a decent size. All 3 bedrooms (ours, baby's, guest) are close to each other. I'm comfortable being topless in front of my sister, but that's about it lol. By the time MIL and FIL come, I am ok with going into my bedroom or nursery to bf.... & that's a good idea to stress needing help after DH goes back to work.
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