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I would probably buy them a "useless" item off their registry. It's the thought that counts and they will probably appreciate that you took their registery into consideration (: Then, they might feel like they have to buy you something off your registery, which will be good for you guys (:

Money. Cash is king and everyone needs money. I'd prefer money. Regretted lotta registry items.

Do you know them well? If so, I would select a more personal gift, maybe something that relates to a hobby or particular interest of theirs? I know I'm in the minority, but I feel registries are guidelines, not requirements. If you've got a better idea for something they'd like that might mean more to them than whatever is on their list, go for it! You can always get a gift receipt if you're unsure if they'll like it.

Give cash. They probably want cash so chose a sparse registry accordingly. And that way you are likely to get cash back!

I vote for cash, too. Don't worry about them gifting you later. They will gift what they can afford.

We always give cash/check

Cash, I think this is a great gift for a wedding, and it was the ones we enjoyed the most (we lived together too so we had a lot of stuff already.)

I would say cash, it would be nice for them to be able to save up money from gifts to be able to buy some of their big-ticket items they haven't been able to buy on their own. And, honestly, they'll likely forget the exact amount you gave them when it comes time for your wedding next year, so hopefully there won't be any awkwardness about them feeling obligated to gift the same amount?

You can never go wrong with cash! Not that I didn't love our registry items, but 2 years after our wedding we are bought our first home and our wedding money that we put aside is really coming in handy when buying furniture, etc.

I don't like to give cash if it's someone I'm not too close to because I don't want to give them a lot and I feel like it looks cheap to give only $40 or $50 vs. buying them an actual gift from the registry for that amount.

@kjpugs: @swurlygurl: Where are you ladies from? On this thread and another you indicate strong social norms/ rules of etiquette. Besides bringing food during bereavement, my circle did not stress etiquette or better said no one was offended if etiquette wasn't followed.

@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I'm from NJ, and saw the cash at weddings probably 90% followed there, and probably 65- 75% followed in Indiana. I don't think it's like OMG TALK ABOUT THAT PERSON THEY ARE SO RUDE if they don't, but that's just what I grew up with and am used to. People brought gifts to our wedding and I didn't shun or judge them. It's just my default. (I think it comes from it being easier for couple to carry out of the wedding and especially if they're going right on their honeymoon. Obviously it isn't always the case and they often have other arrangements made for gifts.)

@wheres_c: definitely don't send a gift if you're not invited to the shower. Who knows, maybe she didn't even have one...

@wheres_c: My vote is for cash if you're attending the wedding. I wouldn't send a Bridal Shower gift if I wasn't invited, though..

@swurlygurl: on the sip & see thread you mentioned 50 elders who would get you back in line lol

In Asian culture, cash is always the gift of choice, so that's what we always give.