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We waited until I was 30 to start trying - we'd been together 10 years and married for a few years. I didn't expect it would take so long to get and stay pregnant with our first though. I don't really have regrets about starting younger. I got and stayed pregnant with DS2 easily...getting to our third living child has been a road of heartache, but in the end I think it will work out ok. I'll be just shy of 37 when we are done having kids. I'll be happy to move on but also feel that I had plenty of years of alone time and working on my career exclusively before having kids.

We were married 8.5 years when T was born. DH was anxious to TTC and concerned it could take some time. I would have liked to do a trip to Europe first. But it happened quickly and we have such a wonderful DD- timing worked just right the have this exact child.

I wasnt happy about the ttc/loss circumstances that put my first LO a year "behind schedule," but in the grand scheme of things the timing worked out well, so I don't think I would go back and change anything.

The timing has meshed really well with where I am in my grad school program-- I'm really lucky that my obsessive planning worked out and that we were able to get pregnant relatively quickly, even with a loss thrown in as well

It's such a hard question to answer because honestly I think we started having kids too young. But of course if we hadn't started when we did, I wouldn't have my sweet boy!

But I was only 22. And he was 100% planned for. I wish I would have waited until I was completely done with school (to be fair I did have one two-year degree, and then stopped because I didn't know what I wanted to do... and it wasn't until I became a mother that I knew for sure I wanted to be a nurse). And I wish we would have taken the time to be married a little longer, save more money and have bought a house prior to having kids.

Plus, having to fit all of that in the five years since having my first meant that we weren't having another one until now. I'm finally a year into my career and will finish my third college degree in December, so timing is a lot better now. While I love how excited my five year old is to have a baby brother, I worry they won't be close due to the large age gap.

@Mrs. Pen: If it makes you feel any better, I know sisters with the same spacing and they love it and have always been best friends. They loved it so much, one is now a mom and is doing similar spacing for her own.

I know this doesn't exactly answer the question, but no matter what I feel like my babies were meant to be mine, and I can't picture a different timing. I would be a different person without them. I was going on 23 with my first. And I'm not one of those people who believes there is always a reason, etc... I think they are the only thing in the world I feel that "meant to be" feeling about!

We were married for a little over 4 years when we had LO#1. I thought it was pretty perfect.

I feel like we were young compared to our friends but old compared to family. I wish we had more time married but it also put us on the same timeline as our friends so we all have kids similar age.

In hindsight it would have been nice to start about six months sooner. But we went on a sort of delayed honeymoon 11 months after we got married. The destination has malaria risk, and you can't take anti malaria meds while pregnant. So, we waited to try but then since it was the dry season we did not see a SINGLE mosquito the entire time. Sometimes I really hate the CDC. Their recommendations are so overly conservative.

After that it took eight months plus a miscarriage to get a sticky pregnancy. I was 34.5 when I got married, and after all this I was almost 37 when my son was born.

Now we have been TTC a second for a year. It's not working and I am feeling some pressure about my age. Oh well.

It was good time for us and made sense for other timelines we had in mind. But none of our friends have kids, it will likely be years before any of our really close friends have kids. That part makes me sad. It would have been nice to go through this with my best friends. The friendships I've made after DD are just different.

I kind of wish we had LO1 earlier. We waited to TTC until I would have a due date after being vested at work and then it took a year to get pregnant. Ours are pretty close together and I do love it, but I wish LO1 & LO2 would be more than 1 year apart in school! I do love their age gap though so I can't say I am unhappy with how it worked out.

We waited about two years into marriage before deciding to try for kids. I wanted some quiet, married life time before embarking on the kids journey. By the time that LO #1 arrived, we were married close to 3 years and together about 8 years. The transition from married to married with kids was tough. It got better, but took a long time to find that groove and lots of marriage counseling.

When LO #1 was nearing two years old, it became decision time about another. I had LO #1 at 31. Having another one would put me at 35, so we needed to decide sooner or later on it. LO #2 arrived with a little under a 3 year age gap. I got pregnant with him quick. He's our reason for moving to the burbs and changing our city life to suburban life.

I love my two kids and am thrilled not be pregnant again. I'm done having babies. I'm already super tired with marriage, household balance, kids, work, and commute to think of another one. My baby making days are done.

To paraphrase Morpheus, things happened the way they had to happen and couldn't have happened any other way.

DH is several years younger than me and we got together when the time was right. I was in a crappy relationship before him that made me realize what I needed in someone else. And with him being younger I kind of felt like he was too young to settle down before me.

I met him when I was 29, we got engaged when I was 32 and married when I was 34, and had our first when I was 35. We were in a good place financially and I owned my own home. We bought a bigger house and then had our 2nd child when LO1 was 2 years 9 month which was my absolute ideal timeframe. I wanted my kids close, but any closer would've been much more expensive in terms of daycare. And it's great that DS is getting more and more independent. I wouldn't have been good at handling 2 under 2.

If the timeframe of my life could've been sped up by about 5 years so I could be a little younger and doing this, that would've been great. But life didn't work that way and where we ended up is amazing.