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My husband and I were both spanked less than 5 times our entire lives. Every time my dad spanked me; he came into my room afterwards and apologized and cried:( Both my mom and dad grew up with “spankings” (i.e., abuse at times for sure) and never spanked out of anger and never as a later result of behavior (like, spanking us after we got home for something we did an hour before while out in public).

We won’t be spanking LO; I just don’t think it’s a lasting, effective form of discipline – except as a fear tactic. I also don't think it's something I could defend to LO later in life while teaching her not to accept violence in her own life or to be violent to anyone else.

I was not spanked, and I would never spank a child. I think it should be illegal, as it is in many other countries.

I was spanked - when it was not done out of anger, I accepted the punishment. I was also slapped, for which I still harbor anger and resentment to this day.

I am not planning to spank LO. However, if we decide to use spanking as a punishment, it will not be reactionary or out of anger. I will never slap LO.

@SweetChic: I agree. For me, the slapping was worse. I always felt like well, if I am the child and I can control my emotions and not reach out and slap someone out of anger/ frustration, I expect my parents to be able to show similar control. There were a few times (with only 1 exception) that I was completely blind-sided by the slap, and was horribly stunned and hurt by the gesture (more emotionally than physically).

I wasn't really spanked much, but I was a pretty easy going kid. My two sisters got spanked much more.

My husband was also spanked as a child.

We plan on including spanking the right way in our child rearing.

I was spanked out of anger. It didn't change my behaviour, it just made me not do whatever I was doing in front of them. I think there are better ways to deal with misbehaviour. I will say never-say-never: if my child did something really atrocious, a spanking could happen.

I was spanked as a child; it was my parents preferred form of punishment. I was watching my little brother when I was 13, lost my temper and smacked him. I will never forget the look on his face and never hit him again; I hope to never smack my child as punishment. I wouldn't hit my dog - why would I hit a child?

We were both spanked as a child, only as a last resort. I don't know how I feel about it now. We are both productive members of society, and I honestly only remember the last time I was spanked, and it was because I didn't cry/it didn't hurt. But I don't hit my dog or my cats, so I can't see myself hitting my child.