how do you compare? and where do you live.
i live up north in Pa and the norm around here seems to be around late 20's to 30ish to start having babies. i had P at 25 so kinda young around here.
how do you compare? and where do you live.
i live up north in Pa and the norm around here seems to be around late 20's to 30ish to start having babies. i had P at 25 so kinda young around here.
GOLD / eggplant / 11517 posts
It is sort of split. A whole bunch of DHs friends/family had babies in the 25 range. And most of my friends don't have kids yet and I don't expect them to until their early-mid 30s.
cantaloupe / 6164 posts
around here people tend to get married right out of college, so in the 21-23 range, and then start having babies in the 23-25 range. i finished college and got married at 21, and got pregnant at 23, so i fit the mold pretty well.
pineapple / 12793 posts
Surprisingly at 31 I'm on the young side for our area. There seem to be a lot of professional moms that put of childbearing around us.
pomegranate / 3314 posts
@oliviaoblivia: At 31 I am on the young side for New York. I would say most women (first time moms) in my mom and baby group are in the 34-38 range?
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
I'd say right around 30. My friends are just starting to have babies, and there are still plenty that aren't quite there yet, so I'm probably just slightly older than the norm at 31.
pomelo / 5178 posts
Most of my mom friends didn't start TTC until 30+. I had my first at 25, so we're a little on the young side.
pear / 1965 posts
In the Military its common to get married REALLY young and have kids really young too. At 29 & 3o most Military (or our Military friends) people our age have school age kids.
DH had his daughter with his first marriage when he was 21...which is not that uncommon.
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
Late 20s early 30s. I was 28. Now my friends are 29 and still no babies, so I'm young for us.
pomegranate / 3872 posts
I'm on the East Coast and I'd say around 30 - but most of my friends are still swinging singles in NYC!
pomegranate / 3890 posts
@rainbow sprinkles: 16? omg as a common age.?!?! only one girl from my graduating class had a baby in high school, its uncommon around here.
eggplant / 11287 posts
@stargal: I am definitely exaggerating, but I went to a high school in a rural, not-so-great area, and 8 of the 12 girls on my cheer squad had gotten pregnant by graduation.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
mid twenties I think... most people marry young, within 2-4 years after graduating HS (or RIGHT after graduating college) but don't have babies for a few years.
I am definitely the only one from my graduating class to have a baby right now. Makes things so weird when I see them around haha!
I would say 25-32ish.
clementine / 780 posts
Where I grew up the formula was normally: college, masters, marriage, house, then baby.
Where I am now, its more like high school on up is fair game.
apricot / 444 posts
@meredithnyc: I'm also in NY and feel way young (I'm 29). I feel like the vast majority here wait til mid-to-late thirties and sometimes early forties.
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
It seems like it mostly depends on if you are college educated or not. Almost all my friends are 27 and up for their first children. But going to college and grad school really does set you back! Those loans, yikes! And if you didn't go to college, it seems like they have them really young here--late teens, early 20's. The midwest pops 'em out pretty early
I'm about average, maybe a little early (by a year? maybe two). It's not uncommon for women at my work to wait until they are 30 to have their first.
cantaloupe / 6206 posts
My youngest friend to have a baby had her first at 28. Many of my other friends are mid-30s and don't have any yet, but my friends with kids started having them soon after her and have since had a 2nd. They're all around 6 and 4 yo (I'm 34).
kiwi / 515 posts
My youngest friend to have hers was 26. I'm the next at 27, none of my other friends have kids, and my cousins have all seemed to have theirs in their early 30's. So I'd say late 20's early 30's is most typical.
coconut / 8681 posts
Most of our friends have started having babies in the 24-28 range. I'm 23 and just had LO but DH is 27 so we're right about in that range.
bananas / 9628 posts
MA has the oldest maternal age upon first delivery in the US. as of 2006, the average for the state was 27.7 yrs old, i imagine it's still similar if not slightly older now. sounds right to me. some start earlier, but many of those do not have college degrees, many start later who have been in school a long time and have spent time in their chosen profession.
coconut / 8279 posts
@mrs. bird: I didn't know that! I live in town and am definitely on the younger side of my peers at 31. Most are mid-to-late thirties.
cantaloupe / 6206 posts
@mrs. bird: Ah that makes sense I'm not from MA but live here now and not many of my friends here have kids.
GOLD / cantaloupe / 6581 posts
Many people around here get married right out of college (which I actually did, but I graduated late) and start having babies right away. Of our friends with children, they all have older kids, so we are late to the game lol! You wouldn't think 25 was 'old' to start TTC, but around here it is! It's a bit annoying, actually!
pomegranate / 3212 posts
@mrs. bird: sounds right to me. My mom was 43 when she had me and it was e same for most of her coworkers. My half sisters mom(my step mom) was 42 when she had her. I sort of thought that's how it was! Man did I have a learning curve....
bananas / 9973 posts
Late 20-early 30s from what I can see. The few GFs I have that have kids all started around 30+.
eggplant / 11824 posts
I think "the norm" depends a lot on whether or not you go to college and build a career; not necessarily where you are from.
Of the girls I went to high school with; the ones who didn't go to college and stayed in the small town where our high school was; almost 100% had babies well before 25 (most, 18-23 years old). Many are on second, and even third marriages now.
3 girls, and myself, had babies in June - we were all 30, and we all went to college and built careers. Many others who went off to college are just now getting married, and are not yet TTC.
olive / 73 posts
Our town has a military base and a university nearby. Most military families having babies are early 20's; for non-military, most are mid-30's. I'm 27 and a grad student, and DH and I are the only ones among our friends who are married and having a baby. The only people I really know with young children are my professors!
cantaloupe / 6800 posts
The acceptable norm: Married right out of highschool. Baby from 20-24
The actual norm: ...at my 10 year highschool reunion, there will be a LOT of 10-12/13 year olds, and probably only a few married people. A girl I graduated with had two kids by two dads at 18 years old.
I got married a month after my 19th birthday, and had I not miscarried I would have a baby at 20.
I live in a huge military town too, so like PPs have said they start 'em young around here. For comparison, I have a male cousin who is 28 with no kids and people act like he will never have any b/c he's "so old". And my female cousin who is 30 with no kids, the family has already written her off and don't expect grandkids from her
GOLD / watermelon / 14076 posts
I have no idea. I live in a huge city, so it probably varies a lot. I looked up the average maternal age upon first delivery in Texas, and it was 23.9 in 2006. So I guess mid-20s?
coconut / 8483 posts
I am 24 and none of my friends from highschool and in the city I grew up have kids yet. I don't either. Now I live in a smaller town, with a bunch of us transplants who don't have any family in the area. Most of my friends have kids here.. they started when they were about 23-25 I'd say.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
I'm the first of my gfs... so I don't really have a gauge to the "norm".... I'd say late 20s, early 30s though for the majority of people that grew up with/around us~ (DH and I live 20 min away from our hometown)
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