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Oh man, this entire weekend all she would say was "No Momma". It hurt my heart a few times.

@autumnlove: the 3's are challenging!!!!!

Actions hurt me more than words at the moment, my son's having major "daddy time" right now...that and Mickey Mouse. There's little time for me!

@Andrea: charlie too. he says don't talk!

The only hurtful thing she says is DADA for everything!! lol! Can I get a mama please?

Girlfriend has an attitude, I suspect we'll be in for a wild ride when she gets older.

@StrawberryBee: I know it's hard on every parent, but I can't help but feel that being an "outsider" makes hearing some of those things so much worse. Do you ever feel that way?

@.twist.: I feel SO BAD for DH when his DS lashes out at him. He says a lot of things in anger (he has anger management issues that his mother refuses to address except with soap/hot sauce in the mouth) that we know he doesn't really mean, but cut through just straight to your heart. I've never had them directed at me...I think if I did, I'd just start crying. DH deals with it better than I would. His response is always "Well, I'm sorry you feel that way, because I love you very much."

DSS can also be a very loving boy who tells his dad that he can sleep the night in his room with him if he wants.

Ellie can be pretty creative with this sort of stuff. She has a very hard time managing anger and strong emotions. She'll say the usual; that she hates me, that she wishes she had a different mom, that I'm mean; but then sometimes she'll do something like calling me a "big steaming pile of poo," which, come on, we both laughed after that one came out. I think the important thing to remember is that these sorts of expressions are done while children are experimenting with how to deal with anger, frustration, sadness, and other powerful emotions. I'm an adult, and I will freely admit that the desire to hurt a person who has hurt me can be pretty powerful at times. In my experience I have found that reassuring your child that they are still loved and loveable even when they are feeling emotions that don't seem that way, and helping them learn and implement other ways to deal with their emotions ("I see you're feeling really angry. Maybe if you told me more about what was upsetting you we could figure out a solution together.") can be helpful. But I don't know that you can totally eliminate hurtful words. And then there are the gems that are so childishly honest, but still hurt (like when Ellie tells dad about all his new grey hairs... or tells me I have smelly breath in the morning).

So far my oldest hasn't really said anything mean to me yet. He's almost 4 though, so we've got plenty of time.

He does say he doesn't love me when I tell him I love him before bed. I tell him that makes me sad and he says "I just jokin! I DO LUB YOU!" (and he thinks he's so funny) It still stings a little just hearing that sentence though.

Oh boy, what hasn't he said? I don't love you, your not my real Mom (except I am!), I hate you, I wish I had a better family... Maddy isn't old enough to say mean things yet.

Step-daughters have both told me I'm not as nice as their Mommy, and I don't cook as good as her. The younger one says it all the time, she told me I was fat last weekend, Ha! What really stung was her telling me she brings something (blanket, towel, scarf) to remind her of her Mommy and her Mom's boyfriend. When I ask if she brings something from here home with her she said no, she only misses them not us.

She says that I'm not her friend any more but what is more hurtful is when she tells me that I don't love her any more

The "I don't like mama!" exclamation is pretty brutal. On the flip side, he also says "I love mama!" a lot too.

At 14 months he started crying and saying ba-baaa-ba mamama, sounds like he is saying "bad mama". I don't think he knows "bad" yet, but he is excellent at mimicking, so I may have called myself that at one point and had it take off from there. 90% of the time it makes me laugh, 10% of the time I feel like it's true. Oh the joys of parenting