If this isn't too much to ask: Did you learn anything from your interactions with doctors--or your body--that was useful moving forward?
For instance, were you able to regain a sense of control, or find a way to be proactive as you moved forward? Did you learn something about how you handle stress? Did you take up a practice that helped you later? Did you change doctors or hospitals? Did you learn something about advocating for yourself?
My greatest hesitation in TTC after a loss is becoming a patient again. I felt so small and powerless by the end of the whole thing, probably because it was bad news compounded over weeks, tests, and facilities.
If there's any upside, I'd love to hear about it. Were you able to channel some experiences around your loss, or challenges related to TTC, into something positive? (If the answer is no, that's valid, too!)