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Following! I guess I can add that pre-baby my biggest concern is sleep. My husband and I are both super crankypants when we don't have enough sleep, so I'm sort of terrified in that regard.

Prebaby: baby and dog dynamics. I was terrified that I'd start hating my dog or that she'd act out or hurt the baby.
Post baby: household balance. I have a very hard time taking time for myself and often burn out.

pre-baby: discipline ( not mean, but in a how do you raise them up right kind of way)
post-baby: sleep. 18 months and she doesn't. Hasn't. I'm so tired.

Now I worry about my discipline- how to not lose my temper when I am so tired. How to be disciplined to get things done after work when I am exhausted, etc.

@Foodnerd81: Yup. I'd add PPD to that list, but also think that's linked to sleep...

Breastfeeding. I was scared that it would be painful and that she would wear me out cluster feeding. But those fears were nothing compared the the challenges we actually faced in our short breastfeeding journey. Im so glad I spent time pre-baby really searching my soul and deciding at what point I would introduce formula, before I was in the thick of it.

Other than breastfeeding, which really was the hardest thing ever, my biggest challenge was colic. It was so awful to see my baby so unhappy for her first few weeks. I hadn't really considered that pre baby.

Prebaby: Having alone time and having a child so dependent on me.

Postbaby: Definitely having lots of 'me' time. My husband is wonderful and giving me lots of breaks but i still find it difficult to have to always be 'on guard' with a child.

Pre: I don't think I really thought about it too much.. Not the deciding to have her part, but imagining what it would be like with her here. I was a bit nervous about BF- having heard how tough/short a journey it can be.

Post: Sleep!!! Nothing else comes close! I never in a million years thought it would be so hard to get a baby to sleep/nap. So apparently the phrase "sleeping like a baby" only refers to the first few days!!

i was most worried about sleep.

in the early months, breastfeeding was the biggest challenge, which then seamlessly transitioned into an unhealthy preoccupation with LO's sleep that is going strong at 9.5 months. i wonder if it will ever end.

Prebaby: Sleep & Relationship Status
Postbaby: Breastfeeding & Relationship Status

Prebaby: breastfeeding undersupply and relationship

Postbaby: colic, sleep, PPD/PPA. Breastfeeding was a challenge in the beginning, but I had no idea that <over>supply could even be a problem.

Despite the horrible newborn experience, apart from a few spats, our marriage was surprisingly resilient. The best advice I got was to imagine the baby was a tiny tyrant hell bent on breaking us apart. Mentally positioning ourselves as a team up against a super cranky baby helped us survive the whole colicky ordeal.

Pre baby: sleep and household balance
Post baby: relationship issues and sleep deprivation. I could not have anticipated how hard having a colicky baby who didn't sleep well would be on our marriage. At 15 mos I feel like we are finally back to almost normal.

@bushelandapeck: Yes on colic + bad sleep = shittastic marriage transition. We're 6 months in so hoping by 15 months things will have been recovered.

Will follow this thread!
My biggest fear/concern pre baby is probably sleep and relationship. I'm very comfortable with the idea of formula if my baby doesn't take easily to breastfeeding. I've seen too many of my friends end up broken and devastated when things continue to go badly in that area week after week, and after much discussion with my husband we have decided that we'll give it the old college try but that when we say when, he or she is onto the bottle. I am planning to give birth at a birthing centre where the midwives have the reputation of being very pushy about breastfeeding, so I make sure to mention at every prenatal appointment that I will not be bullied and that if I want to give the baby formula I expect them to be supportive.
Relationship issues are a concern as well, I just hope we make it through okay!
Sleep is starting to creep in as a major concern as well.
We'll see!

Pre-Baby #1: Anxiety and breastfeeding.
Post-Baby #1: Anxiety and beastfeeding lol.

Pre-Baby #2: My toddler adjusting to new baby.

pre-baby: impact of baby on marriage. that's it. i was very naive.

post-baby: sleep deprivation, anxiety and ppd. ugh.

Pre-baby: I thought that after we got past the newborn stage it would be cupcakes and rainbows.
Post-baby: HAHAHA! Is it fair to say everything? Because its everything. Childcare, sleep, my marriage, my job. It's all hard. He is so worth it, but I'm ready to find a balance.

@photojane: Girl I hear you on the hemorrhoid.

Prebaby: Sleep & work/mom balance
Postbaby: Sex/intimacy, me & DH catching daycare colds, naps

Pre-baby: Breastfeeding; connecting with my child

Post-baby: Sleep. My kid is 15 months old and has STTN ONCE; my pp-body.