My 2 year old started saying "you"/"your" to mean "I"/"my" around her second birthday, and everything I'm seeing is that this is a major sign/symptom of autism. Otherwise, though, she has no symptoms--she's very engaged, verbal and seems to understand/care about us and our feelings. We try to correct her by saying whatever she's trying to say correctly (eg. "you mean, 'show mama MY painting'") and being conscientious about switching from saying "Mama wants to play with you" to "I want to play with you" but it doesn't really seem to be sticking. Just wondering if anyone has dealt with this before and how it turned out.
apricot / 398 posts
I think this is really normal. Both of my kids did it and they are neurotypical.
grapefruit / 4042 posts
I think it is normal.
kiwi / 535 posts
My daughter did this too! It’s really the same as when kids refer to themselves in the 3rd person which is so common. I actually asked my ped during a check up and he said it was normal and don’t do anything about it (nothing you can do anyway) except continue to talk to her. She grew out of it by 3!
nectarine / 2458 posts
Another vote for normal. My son did the same thing as @JJ2626 mentioned with the 3rd person. He had used me/my you/yours before but then when he learned the 3rd person, it's like he forgot those 2 and only used the 3rd person for everything for a while. He eventually grew out of it. I think as they learn new things like that they test it out a lot to see how it fits and temporarily forget the old stuff. Has your daughter used me/my before and is just now switching?
kiwi / 543 posts
I also think this is pretty normal. I wouldn't worry about it. My almost 3 year old can't get she vs her or he vs him correct, and I think this is similar. They are still learning!
persimmon / 1404 posts
Thanks, ladies. So much online says that this is typical of autism and none of my friends’ kids did it, so it’s good to hear that it could be totally normal.
@JennyPenny: The only time she’s ever said “my” consistently is when she tells the dog “that’s my food” so it’s not like she’s backsliding, she just hasn’t gotten the difference between you and I yet even though otherwise she’s speaking in full, correct sentences.
apricot / 274 posts
All 3 of my girls did this. I had no idea it was supposedly a sign of autism! None of my kids are autistic. They figured out all the correct pronouns within a few months.