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1. 5yo son who finished pk4 yesterday and starts camp Monday. I have no idea where any of his camp stuff is, I still have not called camp to find out if any of his friends will be on his bus, which is a source of anxiety for him.

2. My twin girls turn 11mo today. I stopped pumping about 6 weeks ago but we still have a nursing relationship.

3. My company is being acquired next week so my bosses will have new bosses which could mean either great or awful things for my role.

4. We are scheduled to close on a in the ‘burbs house the following week.

5. I still have to line up a painter, a flooring guy, a deep cleaner and a mover for our condo so we can list it for sale. Until it sells we will be VERY mortgaged. Lots of pressure to move quickly but we have two full time jobs and three kids.

6. Need to start planning the first stage of our move so that we can move the majority of our belongings to the house and stage the condo.

7. The commuter trains are messed up due to construction this summer so once we move my commute will be a mess for awhile.

8. I am in the middle of a nanny search for our new town plus trying to help our current nanny find a new gig.

9. Our new town has a lottery system for elementary school so I have no idea where my 5yo will be placed for K in the fall. This means I do not know his school start time or whether or not he will be eligible for the school bus. So I have no idea what my morning timing options are, or what time I will be able to arrive at work.

I have a 3 and a 5 year old. Lately I have been feeling overwhelmed, and it’s starting to get to me. Here’s what I’ve got on my plate:

I turn 40 tomorrow, and I’m not dealing with it well. I feel like 40 is so old! I’m not ready!

I feel constant guilt about how early I have to wake the boys up and how much time they spend in daycare. Now school is about to get out and my older son keeps asking what summer vacation is, and I feel so bad because for him it just means full-day daycare instead of school and daycare.

I decided I need to get back into running, so I’ve been trying to run 4x a week, and the only time I can do it is after the boys go to bed, which means my already negligible personal time is cut down even more.

I’m acting in a more senior job temporarily at work, and I spend half my day feeling like I’m in over my head.

We got rid of our cleaning lady in an attempt to save some money, and I really hate having to do the cleaning again after five years.

I have friends coming over for lunch on Sunday and the husband is a vegetarian and I have no idea what to make.

Then there’s just the day to day groceries/laundry/cooking blah blah blah - it’s all starting to wear on me.

Way too much and I'm not coping well. Almost 4yo and 12 month old. 12 month old has developmental delays so every week is PT and OT, about to start speech, coordinating with insurance (a nightmare) and EI through our county, 6 specialists (so coordinating records/info flow/appt scheduling), tube surgery July 1, neuro July 2, etc.

Almost 4yo is being pushed to start preK and go to K on time or lose his spot and he needs to be held back so I'm fighting with his school. Just started OT, he is over a year delayed in fine motor skills. Having major behavioral problems at home and our ped wants us to take him to a child psychologist. I cannot handle him a lot of the time. So in the next 2 weeks we will be up to 4 therapy appts weekly: speech, OT, and PT for baby and OT for big bro. 4yo refuses to poop in the potty and poops in his underwear like twice a day so I am the poop queen in addition to all my other tasks. LOL

Both kids need to see a pediatric cardiologist for a familial congenital heart issue and 4yo needs a dental appt. 1 yo is supposed to see a pediatric opthamologist for an eye issue. I need to find a therapist for ME.

2 back to back long weekend trips in the next 3 weeks, one involving ridiculous travel (13 hour travel day each way, 2 flights + long car ride with kids) to see my husband's family, all the packing, planning, etc.

I work 3 days a week.

Paying most of the bills, laundry, cooking, grocery shopping, staying on top of whether we need diapers, soap, kid clothes, etc etc. Kids do swimming/water stuff at daycare 3 days a week so tons of laundry/packing every night. Packing lunches for both daily. 1yo has egg and dairy allergies which makes food complicated. He is still nursing 2-3x a day.

Zero family support, live 800 miles away from closest family. I feel crushed under the mental load. And still up at night with my 1yo so I sleep 5-6 hours tops and up with my screaming 4yo by 5:45-6 every day without fail. He refuses to let daddy do anything for him, otherwise he has a massive screaming tantrum that goes on and on so I never get a break from him.

I need a vacation SO BADLY but that is never going to happen, so I am going to try to find a therapist instead. SIGHHH

@MrsADS: Just wanted to say Hi and give you an internet hug. I have a 5 yr old and a 2 yr old, the 2 yr old was just diagnosed with autism and we have been doing therapy 2x a week for about a year - in addition to the 5yr olds after school sports. A few months ago I finally made an appt with our family doctor, was put on an SSRI with the recommendation I try therapy myself, and a few months later I feel so much better. I was frustrated and angry and hadn't realized how depressed I was. Just want to recommend making an appt for yourself - doesn't hurt to talk about it with your doctor, with so much going on its important to remember to take care of yourself too. You are also not alone and delays/therapy/raising kids with extra needs is tough and exhausting.

@mrsbeluga thanks for the encouragement I am def going to find a therapist, but really I should probably see my doctor and start a small dose of an antidepressant bc I'm miserable. Also very ragey like you mentioned. I have taken them in the past and didn't love the way it made me feel, but it did help my symptoms.

@ElbieKay: Sounds like we are in a similar place with moves, though I can't complain as I just have one LO to juggle!