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Probably 5 years!

5 years. Only because I want to be done for sure when I'm 35 and that is how big the gap would be if I had one then. My brother is 8 years older than me (and we are the only 2) and I think there are a lot of benefits to big gaps. (also benefits to small gaps-- but I just don't think big gap are as big a deal as others do...)

I'm 4.5 years older than my sister and I think it's just on the outside of being too far. I'd prefer smaller gaps because of my age.

My brother and I are 9.5 years apart, I don't think I'll want to be pregnant at 41, but the age difference wouldn't be what stopped me

I don't have a max. We're not having anymore so it's a moot point, but I think siblings can be close even with a large age gap. I actually think a 4-4.5 year age gap is perfect.

I don't have one. Age difference doesn't determine how close they will be.

Probably 4 years (though we will be trying for between 2.5 and 3 ideally). I'm 4.5 years older than my brother and I'd like a smaller gap for my kids if possible, just so they can have more similar interests growing up.

Before life got in the way I wanted them about 2 years apart.... I'll probably be closer to 3. I think there are advantages to both. I think if my son was 5 and kind of independent, I might be "over" the baby stage and unwilling to go back!

No max.

@sandy: Your post makes me so excited and hopeful for you guys!

As for us, I would prefer no more than a 3 year age gap (even though I think a larger gap is perfectly fine - my sister and I are 5 years apart!) mostly because I am anxious to be done with pregnancies but DH wants to wait to TTC to a time that would make my current youngest about 4 years apart from the next baby. So I guess 3-4 ideally?

I want to say 4-5 years. Mainly because I don't want to revisit the baby stage alllll over again once the older ones are well past that. And just the practical logistics of managing kids in completely different stages.

My youngest sis is 11 years younger than me. We are best friends!

I don't think the age gaps are so relevant, it's more about when you feel done having kids.

5 years. Only because I want to be done with pregnancy by then. We may do two close together then consider a third after a few years.

I don't have a max specifically for a gap, but I had my first when I was 29, so I probably wouldn't want to wait much longer than 5 years to have another just for energy/health reasons.

I don't really think the gap is the problem, it's more like, do I want to go through babyhood all over again after we've already left those stages behind us?

I don't really have one, because I don't think a big age gap is a big deal and having them close together is tough! I want one more and I think there'll be about a 5-6 year gap between number 2 and 3. I worry about having kids into my mid and late 30's because of my endometriosis and MTHFR.

No max. We haven't decided if we'll have another, but if we do, the smallest gap they'd be apart is 4 years at this point. For us, it's more about when we're ready, not how close we want the siblings to be in age.

I don't really think there's a max? If anything, mine will be closer together (like, 3 years) because I started on things in my 30's - not because I'm overly concerned about spacing time.