We were off work last week and went on a fam vaca so we're pretty evenly split, if not moreso with DH taking the kids so I can nap, etc.
In a normal week, I'd say it's about 60me/40 these days. Wknds we're pretty much tag teaming, but during the week, I do more of the parenting because I'm at home more often than DH.
grapefruit / 4066 posts
Probably 75% me 25% DH and it's causing a lot of resentment lately 
cantaloupe / 6692 posts
I'd say it's about 60% DH and 40% me lately. First tri has gotten me down and DH has been great at picking up my slack.
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
55% me. He works a double Tuesday and Thursday's and because of a torn rotator cuff I do all of bathtime. Butt he more than makes up for it with household stuff!
I initially posted 60-65% me but that's not fair because he does ALL drop offs and picks up 3 days week.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
Right now I think 80% of it is me. DH pretty much has no work life balance during the week. He leaves for work before DD gets up and has been getting home after she goes to bed half of the week. It's wearing on him because he misses her. He's actively job hunting. We are both ready for a change!
papaya / 10343 posts
In terms of actually doing stuff I'd say it is maybe 55/45, and skewed towards me only because LO wants me to put her to bed every weeknight. But when we are all just hanging out together not really DOING anything it is like 80/20 me because LO is my velcro baby and demands I play with her constantly while mostly leaving DH alone (even when he tries to entertain her so she'll let me relax a bit, it does not fly with her).
nectarine / 2521 posts
60/40 in my favor . DH travels 4-5 days at a time for work so I solo parent , but he also keeps LO the 2 days a week I work and he takes LO to a parent school program they do together, so the 3 days he's home he does everything!
pear / 1616 posts
On the weekdays probably 75 me 25 him. He leaves earlier than they wake up and gets home about an hour before bath so I get them ready and pick up and feed dinner by myself. But he helps with dinner bath and bedtime once he gets home. On the weekends probably like 60 me 40 him. He usually has some work to do on the weekends so I'll play w them while he works a bit
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
80/20 me? I sah so of course it's skewed but even when we are both home I'm doing most of it. It's not totally his fault- I'm breastfeeding the baby so that's a lot of it with her. The annoying thing is he could do way more for the toddler but she is in an insane mommy phase still and throws a tantrum when he tries to do anything, so it's just easier to do everything myself.
coconut / 8483 posts
I stay home so I do everything all day. But when DH is home he does more. So day time and over night it's pretty much 100% me.
Evenings weekends it's probably 70% DH.
honeydew / 7463 posts
I SAH so during the week it's probably about 75/25.
Weekends or vacations it's pretty darn even. Maybe 55/45? We do a lot together and take turns.
hostess / cantaloupe / 6486 posts
It's 80% me 20% DH all the time. Maybe 70/30 on the weekends. Maybe. But he knows he has it easy and has volunteered to do night wakings with LO3...I will be taking him up on that offer lol
nectarine / 2280 posts
90/10 which may bump to 80/20 during vacation. It's mostly me though.
apricot / 486 posts
It's probably 80% me and 20% hubby. Mostly because of me being a SAHM and then breastfeeding.
clementine / 955 posts
90/10 mon-Thursday I SAH and DH is up at 4 for work and doesn't get home till 630 and is in bed by 9. Fri-Sunday when he's off it more 70/30, mostly though just because he's been catching up on outside chores
cantaloupe / 6634 posts
Dh and I have nearly identical jobs and I would say it's 65/35 but I am also factoring in that I do both daycare drop offs, pick ups, pump and breastfeed. While it's not equal, I will say that it's getting better.
grapefruit / 4355 posts
Probably 80% me, 20% DH. But I'm a SAHM and DH is out of town 4 days a week every week for work.
It is a lot closer to even when he's home (although still slightly skewed to me). It is just hard to balance out the multiple days where it is 100% me.
pomelo / 5607 posts
SAHM, so... 90/10? During the week. On weekends it's closer to an even split, but I still do more. And he only takes Friday night wake ups.
eggplant / 11716 posts
We're pretty 50/50....probably 55% me, 45% him because of the mental part of parenting (doctor's appointments, preschool registration) that DH doesn't ever think of/take care of. But fairly equal on all other parenting/household stuff if you look at the hours we are both home.
cantaloupe / 6131 posts
Hmm, I feel like we do a pretty good job splitting things when we are at home, especially on the weekends. But during the newborn stage and this weekend when we were traveling (DS is 18 months) it was like so much me! I have to pack everything and plan everything and I'm the one who's calming him on the plane or holding him if he's asleep. Ugh. Made me resentful but that's why we don't travel a lot - DS is a terrible traveler and it's soooo much work!
nectarine / 2148 posts
I feel like it's pretty 50/50. DH does daycare drop offs and pick ups, we both hang out as a family before bed, and I take care of bedtime and anything motn. Weekends are pretty even like that too.
persimmon / 1281 posts
Week- 90/10. I SAH and for some reason DH doesn't want to do bedtime. He helps but I think he's intimidated. I don't get it. And MOTN wake ups are all me.
Weekends- 60/40. He tries to take LO on an outing every weekend just the two of them so they can bond and I can nap or do whatever. It's a nice little break for me.
pear / 1930 posts
Weekdays: 70 him/30 me most nights, 50/4p some nighrs. Weekends 90 me, 10 him. But he gets all night wakings and let's me sleep in as late as I want on the weekends.
pineapple / 12234 posts
I'd say 90 me/10 DH. He's been working a lot of hours so I've been solo parenting. He's so great when he is here though! Definitely 40 me/60 DH when he's home.
hostess / papaya / 10540 posts
70 me, 30 DH is how this year has been. It can get pretty tiring at times.
papaya / 10570 posts
When we are both here and DH isn't working on the house (which I'm always pushing him to do), its 50/50. But given that DH leaves for work just as E gets up, gets home just before the bedtime routine starts, works some Saturday mornings, its currently 70/30. He genuinely doesn't realise how much I do, either, because on the rare occasion he gets her dressed, he doesn't brush her hair, doesn't brush her teeth, doesn't wash her face and then huffs at me that "she's fine" when I go to do it. Yeah, she's fine because I do it every other day!
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
I'd say pretty evenly? DH actually solo parents her way more than me, so I try to take her the moment I'm home and I mostly take care of her on weekends (not that DH isn't around, but then DD also prefers me). He's always happy to help anyway.
pomelo / 5720 posts
Probably 80/20 during the week as I SAH 3/5 days and DH works late. On the weekends more like 60/40 or 50/50, depending on what we're doing.
pear / 1586 posts
I would say it's probably about 60-40 in my favor. Face time is split pretty evenly (DH does mornings/drop-offs, I do pick-ups/dinner, we share bedtime duties), but I do the lion's share of mental work and prepping things like lunches, buying clothes, etc.
pear / 1521 posts
Prob 55/45. Only because I'm still nursing and consequently do bedtime and naps on the weekend. Idk if it's just that she's a bit older now so it's easier or if something clicked for my husband but I am really feeling like things are as even as they can possibly be these days! Even when I'm doing bedtime he is sooo much better about actively doing other stuff around the house (he picks up her toys every night at that time, etc.)
pomegranate / 3921 posts
Right now, probably 65/35 DH/me. He's been a real champ--the first trimester is kicking my you-know-what.
He's out of town this week, though, so....let's hope I survive.
grapefruit / 4988 posts
I'd say 50/50 but DH would probably say that he does more. I admit that he does more obvious stuff (like cooking). He doesn't count all the stuff I do to keep us stocked though (making sure LO has diapers/wipes, clothes in the right size and season, presents for holidays, etc). We also have a family vacation coming up that I basically planned entirely by myself, so even though it's "fun", I feel like that should count.
cantaloupe / 6923 posts
When he's home it's 50/50 for sure. He's actually really helpful, which I'm so grateful for. But o try and get stuff done while he's at work so he doesn't come home and have to do more stuff. But weekends and nights we all go out the 4 of us and we each take one. Not sure what we will do with #3.
apricot / 477 posts
Its 65 me 35 him Monday - Friday I do all daycare drop offs, most of the pickups. I'm the one who gets up with her every morning because he's at work and I prepare her dinners.
but Saturday and Sunday it's 55 him 45 me. He lets me take naps, he takes her places on his own if I have to work. It's her general preference for anyone but me on the weekend though lol
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