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We haven't figured it out either. We don't want any of our parents to be guardians, they're all getting old and wouldn't be able to keep up. My siblings are completely irresponsible. DH's sister is raising her kids in ways that we majorly disagree with. His brother would be a good guardian, but their son is 24 already and I doubt they'd want to take in young children again. My best friend was a possibility, but her husband just isn't crazy about kids. I really don't know who else to even consider

Our estate plan has them going to my parents first, then to BIL/SIL, then to dear friends and then to my other BIL/SIL. I think as my parents, siblings and our children age, we will modify that. But for now, it reflects and prioritizes geography, faith and parenting style along with a consideration for the degree to which it would be life altering (e.g. priority for the BIL who has children over the one who is open to fostering down the road but is currently happily child free, and priority of both over my then college aged siblings).

My husband and I do not have kids yet but we already know we're going to ask my bosses to be the guardians. He's not very close with his family and my bothers and sisters are too young. My bosses are amazing parents and amazing people in general. The big thing is that I know my kids will be financially and emotionally taken care of if something were to happen to us.

Edit- My entire family lives in another state and therefore won't be as involved in their lives. My bosses on the other hand will see and interact with my children pretty much daily unless they move which isn't on their radar.

My husband's twin brother and his wife are our designated guardians, should something happen to us. Even though they lives several hours away, my husband and his brother are incredibly close and I get along with my SIL very well. They don't have kids, so I'm not exactly sure how they would parents, but I imagine it would be similar. They're both good, kind, loving, responsible people, so I think it would be fine. They both have good jobs and we both have life insurance, so I think they could handle it financially. It's actually kind of perfect, right now, because they both say they're interested in having kids but my SIL is kind of terrified of pregnancy/child birth.

Also, my husband and I are the designated guardians for my best fried's kids. When they asked, we did talk it through, but it really wasn't a question if we would do it. She's like a sister to me. And she doesn't have any siblings/parents that would be appropriate to be guardians. We see them pretty frequently, so the kids know us. And we've got pretty similar parenting styles and values. We watched their first when their second was born and we've watched them both for a long weekend when my friend and her husband have taken a mini-adults-only-vacation. We realize that it would be a big shift to inherit two more kids (we'd need a new house, potentially move cities). We'd have to make some lifestyle changes, but we could afford it. And I really love the kids.

My bil and sil are our pick. I have three siblings so I always assumed we'd pick one of them but none are a good choice and I know my one sister in particular will be very hurt by the decision but she won't raise my daughter the way I want and I don't love her partner. I also think my mom will be hurt we picked his family but I'll be dead so that's her problem.

This was a really tough choice for us. We didn't choose either set of grandparents. Age was a major factor - I don't think either set is ready to start over raising kids right now. We have 9 siblings between us, but none are close to appropriate due to age or lifestyle choices. For now we have chosen a couple we are close friends with. They have similar values to us and are fantastic with kids. As some of our siblings get older, we may ammendment our choice in the future.

Most likely my SIL as they have 2 similar age kids and are well off.. But we haven't finalized anything or even talked to them about it!

My kids would go to my brother and SIL. They have two children and parent very similarly to us. They also have the financial ability to take on two more kids (on top of the significant estate we would leave behind). My SIL and her husband are great parents, but they are low on funds and honestly I wouldn't feel comfortable with them having to support our two kids or manage the estate we'll leave behind. Also, I really don't care for my in-laws and I know if my kids went to my SIL they would spend TONS of time over at my inlaws. My Brother and SIL aren't close geographically, but my kids have a great relationship with them and with their kids so they would adjust.

My parents are currently named as guardians. We were advised to do it based on if it we were to pass at this very moment. It can always be changed later and to account for our living location.

The executor of our estate is not the same as the guardians.

Right now my parents are listed as #1. They are still in their 40s so we think they are viable candidates for another at least 10 years.

If they are gone my brother and sister in law are listed. They don't have children yet so if it were to happen soon it would be a major life adjustment.

My dad hates if we talk about it, even though he knows it's in our will. He just says 'don't die!'

My cousin. She's about 10 years old. They are very religious and have a stable home and 5 kids. We are also in business together so our fortunes are tied.

DH and I were just asked to be godparents/guardians for DH's "little sister" and BIL who just had her baby this week. She's actually his aunt's god-daughter, who raised her after her own parents passed, and they are very close. She's very much his sister, more so than his actual older sister. She has no family suitable for raising her child, and while her DH has two siblings both with kids their parenting styles and how they life just don't match up.

DH and I are TTC and this is a topic we struggle with. While my parents are young enough, it wouldn't be ideal. DH's parents are smokers and that is 100% a "no" for me. My brother/SIL are CFBC and while I know they'd take my child (my brother always wanted kids before marrying her) obviously it's not what I'd want for my child. DH's sister in her 40's and unmarried w/ no kids after every long-term relationship goes south. She does had a boyfriend now who is great and had 3 kids - but honestly she would not raise our kids how we would want them raised.

I think more than likely we'd end up reciprocating with DH's little sister & BIL. While she's a bit more hippy-dippy than we like, they live the most similar lifestyle with how we'd want our kids raised. The backup would be our close friends who currently have 1 kid and envision a big family.

I voted we don't know. We picked my brother & SIL before for a lot of reasons. Now he's getting a divorce and there's no way he'd want additional kids. Back to square one. DH's kid sister is four years older now than when we last considered our options. Maybe her. We probably won't decide and hope for the best.