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DH's! For sure.

It depends. My mom's middle name is drama, but then again, so is my SIL's.

His!

DH's, by a thousand miles. I want to move away just so we will be farther from them.

Equal, but in different ways, lol.

Can I say DH? Not necessarily his family, but him? He got mad last week when my mom was visiting bc she washed our dishes. I hate being stuck in the middle and having to tell my mom, whom was just trying to help, to not do our dishes ever again..... ugh

Um.... his for sure.

DH's family is more difficult, but they are also much more involved than mine. More interaction and cultural differences can lead to some drama. I'm pretty distant from my parents, and I get along with my sisters because we all have kids similar in age. Of course it wasn't always this way, and my family was probably more difficult in the past.

DH's, definitely. Specifically his parents. They've barely been involved in LO's life so far and blame us for it. We give them just as many opportunities to see her as my family has, and they always have an excuse to bail at the last minute. It's too hot out, they're too busy, suddenly don't want to drive at night, etc. They've always been very selfish and manipulative, even when DH was younger. It's like navigating a minefield trying not to make them angry...

Mine, but it's a none issue really because I limit contact with the difficult family members.

Probably equal, but just different. My family likes to air out their issues (loudly) and his family likes to bury them and never resolve them, ever.

Mine, for sure. We've cut off almost all contact with them.

DH's family is awesome! I had one conflict with MIL after engaged and another when BIL took DH side in something he knew nothing about. I think I broke a lot of their rules but they accept me anyway. After years and years of polite sweetness, I must conclude they are loving and I love them!! We rarely see them though.

So it is my side. One side of my family has difficult personalities and make choices I totally disagree with but am still interacting with them regularly on FB and through my mom. I limit contact but I can't help but to love them, craziness and all, so on good days and small doses we can connect.

His. They have way more expectations and their feelings get hurt easily.

My family is very laid back and have a "we're here if you need us, cool if you don't" mentality.
His lives nearby (hour away) and want at least once a week visits (and have had a "talk" with DH about us not being welcoming enough).
Mine lives an hour flight or 7 hour drive away and don't expect anything beyond every 3 months or so (and even then it's not a pressured expectation, more of a "it's been a while would love to see you" thing, and to be honest I still usually initiate it).

Mine definitely has its own kind of drama, but it's mostly extended family (my dads siblings who we rarely see) and my brother (mostly unemployment type stuff). It doesn't impact DH & I at all.

DH's for sure. His mother has a list of expectations that she has yet to share with us, so we are a source of constant disappointment.

@OldpuebloJenn: oh the talk. Yeah, and it was behind my back! My mother in law asked for a private lunch with my husband (during the work week when I was home with our 6 month old) and she told him that the amount that they see their grandson is unacceptable. Yeah. Weekly. Unacceptable. When my husband told her that I felt weekly was plenty and possibly too much she was floored. He said she was speechless and smacking the table.
He sorta threw me under the bus, but I'm also glad that he told her something I'd never have the balls to say myself.

@OldpuebloJenn: yes to not letting the relationship grow organically. Those are the exact same words I used with my husband. So much about the relationship and visits is forced and it just makes for a lot of resentment all around.

his. His family ( mainly his mom ) is very high needs, very dramatic, always going through some mid life crisis.

My family is just very normal, no dramatics whats so ever.