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I hear you loud and clear. I wish it wasn’t this way for so many hugs

Hugs! Some days sure are harder than others.

Sometimes I wish I could catch a really bad cold just so I can be pampered for a few days! (Although, let’s face it, I still wouldn’t be pampered!)

@CatchAFallingStar: I’ve had this same thought but TBH things would just be the same - with a cold. Work doesn’t GAF and my young son still needs things and my wife has her stuff......blah!

@CatchAFallingStar: @wrkbrk: have you guys seen Bad Moms? There’s a scene where one mom says she fantasizes about getting into a car accident but not a really bad one just one where she needs to be hospitalized for a few days so she can lay in bed and be waited on (the actual line is way funnier). It made me literally laugh out loud because it’s so awful but so true. When I had my 2nd baby I literally treated it like a spa. I had a RCS so I knew I’d be there a few days. I didn’t BF (for various reasons) so at night I kept him in the nursery and even sometimes during the day so I could shower or nap or whatever. I read books and packed face masks. Packed cute pajamas and a robe and slippers. Didn’t miss a single meal and ate every bite while it was still hot. None of which I did the first time. But the 2nd time? I was like “this is such a break!!!!” And I knew it would all end when I got home so I MILKED IT.

@jennlin821: =( Hope you can find a way to make some changes so you get the support you need!

I sometimes feel like that, too....but I've had a string of never ending health issues the past 2 years, and my husband has always stepped up when I really need it (and when he can't do everything I need, I fly my mom out to help me/help him/take the kids). I just had surgery 3 weeks ago, and my husband slept in the kids' room for 2.5 weeks so I wouldn't be disturbed at night/early morning ever, and my mom came and did everything else. So I didn't lift a finger to cook or do childcare or anything for at least 4-5 days, and then another week of totally being off duty for overnights/early mornings. Everyone should have that kind of support.

I lost my job b/c I have a shitty credit score. My DH is getting bounced checks from his work. Sexism is also making things difficult for me right now. Basically I have 99 problems and capitalism and the patriarchy are all of them.