I would like L to help clean up his toys. I want to teach him that kind of responsibility. However, he is kind of in a defiant stage and I will ask him a few times to help me clean up his toys and he'll just say "no, mama help".
I'm just wondering how far you push the clean up rule? I don't want to make a big fight out of it, but I don't want him to get used to me cleaning up after him all the time either...
honeydew / 7504 posts
We've started reminding him, "If you get it out, you have to put it away," and that actually seems to help a lot, surprisingly. If he's trying to move on to another activity, then we say he can't do X until he cleans up Y. If he's super-resistant, I ask him if he'll help me clean up, which often works because he loves to be a "big helper."
eggplant / 11716 posts
Eh, it depends on the overall day. If it's a day with a lot of tantrums already, I choose my battles and don't push it much. Otherwise, I don't let her get out new toys till the old ones are put up.
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
I used to be very relaxed about picking up, but it got ridiculous and now I have to put some rules in place and it's very challenging.
It's not so much that I need stuff organized, I need it up off the floor or off the table, so i have come to rely on bins. I don't care if the cars are mixed up with the trains, and that's helped a lot.
admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts
I used to push the kids to clean it themselves, but transitioned over into, "Let's do it together." Once we get the process started, they usually do most of it themselves.
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
I helped him, for a while. Then I started sitting next to him holding a box saying things like "Can you bring me all of the blue blocks?" or "Can you put 3 red blocks in the box?". At 3 I expect him to put away what he takes out, but he's pretty great about putting toys away before I have to ask.
pomelo / 5524 posts
It definitely depends on the day and who he's with. If he's with me, DH, or my dad we ask him to be a good helper and help us clean up his toys. We don't make him do everything alone and teach him that it's nice to have help to clean things up.
If he's with my FIL, it's impossible. My FIL wants to be the fun grandfather, so he doesn't make him do anything and even will defy what I say in order to seem more "fun". It's pretty annoying.
pomegranate / 3438 posts
Most days he is fine cleaning up and I think a lot of that has to do with daycare. But there are days on the weekend that we don't push it that much and just have fun then clean everything up all at once at the end of the day. We often have "races" to see who can put away the most toys in the correct spot. Works like a charm when he fights it!