I want to be strict in a different way than my parents were that involves more communication/trust. I just hope Charlie and Olive turn out to be good kids and we don't need to be that strict. I want them to push themselves rather than need us to constantly push them to do well.
Mr Bee's parents were pretty strict and he did very well, and my parents were strict and I was a bad, rebellious girl. So maybe it's just luck of the draw. Because of my experience though, I hope I can be less strict while Mr. Bee probably wants to be more strict than I do.
Do you want to be as strict, less, or more strict than your parents were?
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
I think it depends on my kids. My parents weren't strict but they didn't need to be. I don't want to be, but will if I have to.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
We'll be as strict as my MIL and Dad were. We'll be more strict than my Mom. She let me get away with too much!
cantaloupe / 6800 posts
I'm going to be the same level of strictness. When I was 15 I thought they were the worst, but now I look back and realize that they were just right. I got away with just enough to have an adventurous teenage-hood, but I had boundaries and appreciate having them now
coconut / 8498 posts
My parents weren't too strict, but they didn't really need to be. I was too scared of getting in trouble We'll be as strict as our children require.
pomegranate / 3716 posts
Less strict than my parents, more strict than his parents. It's going to be tough to gauge how much "more" or "less" actually is.
pomelo / 5331 posts
My parents were appropriately strict. They didn't let me just go off by myself, they drove me everywhere, and gave me a curfew. But they were flexible where appropriate. I'll be as strict.
coconut / 8854 posts
My parents werent strict at all and I never really got into much trouble at all. DHs parents were insanely strict and he was a little hellion! Soooo, I'm thinking about setting boundaries, and finding a comfy middle.
pear / 1946 posts
My parents were fairly strict. I was expected to do well in school, participate in my sports, do chores around the house, and had a curfew in high school. I think I turned out pretty well. I also think a lot of kids these days are just handed too many things and don't have much of a work ethic, so I plan on having chores, expecting good grades, and having LO be involved in some sort of extra curricular activity (sports, art, etc)
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
Depends on my kids, I want to be similar to what my parents were with me, with open and honest communication. I want to be more strict than DH's parent's, they let him get away with a lot!