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I want her to visit more....once a week would be nice but right now it is about once every 2 weeks. We live a few blocks away but she is busy!

I think 3X a week is pretty nuts when you're working and get so little of your own family time with just you, your DH, and LO. I do tend to see my mom about that much, but I'm a SAHM and she'll occasionally come by when DH is at work. However, she is helpful and loving and I'm happy to have her. My DH works a ton though, so I try to not have more than 1 day a week that we have plans after he gets off work.

We just had to get in the habit of saying no when it wasn't a good time. We see family about once every 1-2 week's or so. Everyone complains that they don't see the baby enough...but they also turned down the option to do any level of childcare during the week....so this is how it has to be since we both work a ton.

Hmmm. I agree that 3x week is very difficult. I like our arrangement of once a month (but my parents live 2.5 hours away - I know, not what you asked for).

It's going to be an adjustment getting back into a routine with you going back to work. Do you think it would be possible to set up a once a week date where your family goes to your mom's house for dinner? That way, you don't have any work and she gets to see your kiddo? I think it would be hard if a parent or in law were coming over a few times a week, especially when your time is SO limited with your lo.

I really hope you can work this out!!

Actually we had this issue! DH's mom lives locally and while i was on maternity leave, was coming over at least once a week, if not 2-3x/week to see the baby. She also invited us over all the time. I started to feel like all our free time was being taken up by her coming over to see E. I told DH that this was one thing while I was on leave, but it was NOT going to fly when I returned to work, because how would we get OUR stuff done? When would WE spend time as a family? He said he understood and I think his mom understands because she doesn't see her that often now. Sometimes she'll want to come by and see her after work but it's always a short visit. Or DH will take the baby to go see her for happy hour (and then I get solo time to do what *I* want to do). But when/if it gets to be too much, I can say no and DH respects that. We say "we are busy, tonight isn't good/etc". They need to respect that we have lives.

If i want to spend the weekend with DH and E, that's how it's going to happen. I do not feel obligated to tote my baby to other family members' houses, nor to allow them to "cramp my style".

You really should speak up. If she's not helping you (by watching DD so you can do things you need to), she's hurting you and imposing on YOUR FAMILY TIME. The nuclear family is the most important.

3x/week would be a no go for me. That is way way too much.

3x a week is a lot! My kid is 6, so the novelty has worn off, but my parents have always kept their visits to a minimum...mostly cause they're busy, too, and don't have time to come over 3x a week. I see them maybe every other week.

My inlaws...I'm just glad my MIL has a job, or else she'll be over all the time...she probably will be, anyways. I'm gonna have to work on that with her.