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@lovehoneybee: I'm only 9 weeks but there has been a lot of anxiety about this baby being another boy and me not getting a daughter. I hope we both get the outcome we want! With LO they told us at the 12 week scan that he was a boy.

I had gender disappointment for about a day or so when I first found out. We found out through a blood test and the results were emailed to me. I was trying to mark the email as read so I wouldn't accidentally see it on my phone before DH and I could read it together, and instead I opened it. I immediately closed it but I thought it said girl. Later that night DH and I opened it together and it said BOY! and I started crying. Then I cried harder because I hated that I was crying.

And next time I know I'll be in your shoes - hopeful for a girl and anxious about disappointment. But as much as I do want our next to be a girl, there are tons of amazing things about having two boys.

@Foodnerd81: I agree! There is something special about having a sibling that's the same gender. I feel like they will have more in common that way and maybe be better playmates/friends. Plus, you get to reuse all your old baby clothes!

I really wanted a daughter just so I could have that experience, but I'm having another boy instead. I was a little disappointed when I first found out, and sometimes I still get a little sad when I think about never having a girl, but for the most part, I'm okay with it. I figure that everything happens for a reason, and I'm meant to be the mother of two wonderful little boys!

@lovehoneybee: I'm right there with you. While having a boy would be financially better for us (we already have tons of clothing for a boy), I have always wanted a girl. This baby is #11 grandkid for my mom and step-dad. First one was a girl, and she turns 15 next month. All the rest have been boys. Same with my ILs - grandkid #4, 1st one was a girl and she turns 15 this fall. This will likely be the last grandkid on both sides. Would be kind of nice to "bookend" both sets with another girl!

I feel torn, but I think in my heart of hearts I really want a girl!

I've always wanted a girl, but I just knew when I was pregnant for #2 that he was going to be another boy, and I was right. The disappointment was fleeting though and I'm thrilled to have two boys and not have to deal with some of the issues girls go through. Plus I'm soooooo excited to be raising brothers and get to see that dynamic. I hope they have a life-long friendship!

But I won't lie - sometimes I'll see a mother and daughter or read about things you only share with your daughter, and I get momentarily sad. But I love my boys and wouldn't change a thing.

I've always wanted at least one of each but early on in this pregnancy DH and I went from 2-3 kids to definitely 2 and through. Like @BandDmommy, I convinced myself I was having a second boy to get used to the idea of never having a daughter (even some of the somewhat more objective findings like lower HCG levels pointed to boy for me). I'm embarrassed to admit I was actually a little ridiculous about it (crying when I saw mothers with their daughters etc.) After 3 scans they're still saying girl for me so you never know. Now I've had to get used to the idea of only having 1 boy which makes me sad as well. I'm sure whichever you are carrying will complete your family and heart perfectly. Every mom I know with only boys is referred to as the queen of the castle and seems to be very much adored by her boys. No denying little boys love their mamas. I think its completely normal to take time to adjust and mourn what will never be.

I will say it took me a long time to get over gender disappointment with my second pregnancy. I just really wanted dd to have a sister because I never had one. I don't know why it was so important to me. It literally took my whole pregnancy to get over it, but now that he's here, he is so perfect and special to me. I am still a little sad dd doesn't have a sister but I wouldn't change my ds for anything.

My DH struggled with gender disappointment for awhile after our second DD was announced, it hurt my feelings because I wanted him to get over it quicker. He tried to cover it up but it was obvious. Now that she's here obviously he's over it but I told him if/when we try for a third he has to be 100% with 3 girls or I'm not doing it. I do not want to have a third for the sole fact of "trying for a boy" like everyone says.

I'm okay with having all girls, honestly I would be a little "what the heck do I do" with a boy, but either way I would like a 3rd. (this makes me laugh because if you look back at any of my post 4+ months ago I was 100% DONE having kids when I was pregnant with DD2!)

My DH wanted a girl and I guess deep down, I did as well. Welp, we're having a boy! It took us a couple days to move past it (we're likely a one and done family) but eventually I was able to get excited about a boy! It helped me by focusing on all the negative girl things I won't have to deal with like crazy hormones and attitudes (and ignoring the negative boy things I WILL have to deal with!!!)

@lovehoneybee: I'm sorry you're under so much pressure! Being a mom of 1 boy is a lot of fun for me. I love seeing how much he adores DH. I found out #2 was another boy and I cried out of excitement. I felt like I really wanted to be a mom of boys...I was a tomboy growing up and I have two nieces who I love so much and can get my girl fix through. Every once in a while, I think ahead to the future and realize I'll never get to do mother/daughter things, but I quickly get over them. I don't have a great relationship with my mom, and I was really afraid to mess up a mother/daughter relationship if I had a girl. I know that sounds silly, but it's always been a real fear of mine!

@BandDmommy: Thats because little boys are beyond awesome! I'm sad not to get another one but at least I can keep telling him how he is my favorite boy in the world

Someone with two boys that wanted one of each. I was pretty disappointed when I found out I was having another boy.

At the time we didn't think it was a big deal because we were probably going to have a third. Then stuff happened during the birth and now it's probably going to be our last and I think that's when it hit me the hardest...
1) not having another kid and 2) never having a girl.

I will say now that my second son is almost 6 months old. I love having another boy! I'm sure I would have loved having a girl too but my love for my second son has grown my heart quite a bit and I really don't feel sad at all for not having a girl anymore.

There is still a chance for us to have a daughter (miracles or adoption) but I think my family feels pretty complete with 2 boys.

@lovehoneybee: I never wanted a girl - I just felt I could relate better to boys. Both pregnancies, it took me about 2 months to get over my gender disappointment. But here I am - a mom to *two* girls and zero boys. I'm finally ok with it. And yes, I still get twinges of jealousy when I see boy moms, but I love it.

@lovehoneybee: so did you find out?!?!?

@birdofafeather: oops! I'm so behind!

@lovehoneybee: And then WOMP WOMP, I see you're having a girl! Congratulations. They're the best!