I haven't been very happy with our pediatrician on the past couple of visits and I am seriously considering changing to a new practice. Hubs thinks I am over-reacting. So I want to see what other people think and if I am indeed over-reacting or being too...whatever...about this.

At D's 9-month appointment, the doctor told us that he hadn't gained enough weight (he'd barely gained 2 pounds in 3 months) and was underweight (he was 25% at 6m, 13% at 9). She also told us that he was behind on his gross motor development, but didn't elaborate on that, and after being told that he was underweight and that he had a heart murmur (which she VERY casually mentioned), I wasn't in the right frame of mind to ask for details.

Right before his 12-month appointment, we had him in because his penis looked irritated. They had to do 2 catheters on him because the first time they used the wrong size and didn't get a sample. The second sample came back inconclusive, so they sent the test out to a lab. That test came back negative, so we still don't know what the problem is, only that he responded to the antibiotics so "it must have been an infections somewhere."

And now at his 12 month appointment, he hasn't even gained 2 pounds again, and is now in 2% for weight at 19lb 13oz, so again they basically said he's not gaining enough weight, but gave no direction as to how to help him put on weight. He gets breafkast, lunch, afternoon snack, and dinner of solids, plus breastfeeds first thing in the morning and at bedtime, plus he WAS getting 3 6oz bottles of breast/WCM a day at daycare. They told us to stop sending in so much milk cuz it's filling him up (even though he got the bottles AFTER the solids), so now I"m sending 6oz for lunch and 3oz for afternoon snack. Plus a sippy of water.

ANWAY. On top of that, the pediatrician also again said that he's behind, and only told us to "challenge" him. D JUST started crawling the week before he turned one. He will stand at his learning table or at the furniture, but doesn't cruise yet and very rarely pulls himself up. He'll walk with a walker. The pediatrician basically told us to stand him up in the middle of the room and just "let go." Anyway, I know that he's on the later end of the developmental milestones - I've suspected that for a while - but I don't by any means think that he's "behind," and it REALLY bothers me that they keep labeling him as such. I've spoken to daycare and they are not concerned, since they see kids all over the range.

I really loved the first pediatrician we had at the practice, but she has left, and I haven't really been happy with any of the other doctors we've seen because they just seem so blase about all this stuff. We are first-time parents, we don't know how this stuff is "supposed" to work...

Am I being ridiculous?